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It doesn’t matter if it’s graduation time or time for your boy to set out on his own, it’s always nice to have a list of 10 songs about boys growing into men. They grow up so quickly and we desperately want to help them get situated on a good path in life. Here are some wonderful songs about boys growing into men that may inspire you or that you may want to share with your son before he sets out into the real world.

  1. “Tough Little Boys” by Gary Allan: Tough little boys is an inspiring song about boys growing into men. Performed by popular country star Gary Allan, it’s a great slow song about how tough little boys grow into loving fathers and how the experience can change them so drastically.
  2. “I Don’t Call Him Daddy” by Doug Supernaw: Sometimes things don’t go as planned. One of the hardest hurdles to overcome for many boys, as they grow into men, is dealing with the subject of divorce and someone other than their father raising them. This is a great song about boys growing into men, both from the father and son perspective.
  3. “Country Kids” by Colt Ford: Country kids is a great country song about country boys growing into men and girls into women. If you grew up a country kid, you’ll love this celebration of the simpler things in life.
  4. “The Boys of Fall” by Kenny Chesney: This is a wonderful song about boys growing into men, as it reminds them not to focus so hard on the future and what they’re going to be, that they miss all the wonderful things going on in their life right now. This song is inspiring, not just for boys, but for anyone that takes the time to listen to it.
  5. “Cats in the Cradle” by Harry Chapin: This is a classic song about a relationship between a father and son. “Cats in the Cradle” is one of the most popular songs about boys growing into men, as well as how important it is to be there for them as they’re growing up. It sure goes by quick!
  6. “I’m an Adult Now” by Pursuit of Happiness: Children often dream about when they turn eighteen and are legally able to do whatever they want. The Pursuit of Happiness wrote this great song about boys growing into men, expressing all the changes that occur when one crosses that line from adolescence to adulthood.
  7. “Back When I Was Four” by Jeffrey Lewis: This is a great song about a boy growing into a man as it starts at age four and tells his story, touching along accomplishments he makes through adolescence and adulthood.  In the end, it’s surprising how things turn full circle and find him enjoying some of the same things he did as a boy.
  8. “Watching Scotty Grow” by Bobby Goldsboro: This is one of the most touching songs about boys growing into men. Experiencing the milestones in a son’s life, through his father’s eyes, most dads can’t help but smile at this golden oldie.
  9. “Father and Son” by Cat Stevens: If you’re looking for a good classic folk song about boys growing into men, “Father and Son” is a wonderful choice.  Telling the tale of a father and his need to impart his wisdom upon his son before he passes away, it’s very thought-provoking and deep.
  10. “Spirit of a Boy, Wisdom of a Man” by Randy Travis: This is a powerful song about a boy becoming a man, and the tough choices he’s faced with. It’s a good song that reminds us that sometimes boys want to take on too much responsibility but, in the end, they are still young boys at heart.
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  1. “Tough Little Boys” by Gary Allan: Tough little boys is an inspiring song about boys growing into men. Performed by popular country star Gary Allan, it’s a great slow song about how tough little boys grow into loving fathers and how the experience can change them so drastically.
  2. “I Don’t Call Him Daddy” by Doug Supernaw: Sometimes things don’t go as planned. One of the hardest hurdles to overcome for many boys, as they grow into men, is dealing with the subject of divorce and someone other than their father raising them. This is a great song about boys growing into men, both from the father and son perspective.
  3. “Country Kids” by Colt Ford: Country kids is a great country song about country boys growing into men and girls into women. If you grew up a country kid, you’ll love this celebration of the simpler things in life.
  4. “The Boys of Fall” by Kenny Chesney: This is a wonderful song about boys growing into men, as it reminds them not to focus so hard on the future and what they’re going to be, that they miss all the wonderful things going on in their life right now. This song is inspiring, not just for boys, but for anyone that takes the time to listen to it.
  5. “Cats in the Cradle” by Harry Chapin: This is a classic song about a relationship between a father and son. “Cats in the Cradle” is one of the most popular songs about boys growing into men, as well as how important it is to be there for them as they’re growing up. It sure goes by quick!
  6. “I’m an Adult Now” by Pursuit of Happiness: Children often dream about when they turn eighteen and are legally able to do whatever they want. The Pursuit of Happiness wrote this great song about boys growing into men, expressing all the changes that occur when one crosses that line from adolescence to adulthood.
  7. “Back When I Was Four” by Jeffrey Lewis: This is a great song about a boy growing into a man as it starts at age four and tells his story, touching along accomplishments he makes through adolescence and adulthood.  In the end, it’s surprising how things turn full circle and find him enjoying some of the same things he did as a boy.
  8. “Watching Scotty Grow” by Bobby Goldsboro: This is one of the most touching songs about boys growing into men. Experiencing the milestones in a son’s life, through his father’s eyes, most dads can’t help but smile at this golden oldie.
  9. “Father and Son” by Cat Stevens: If you’re looking for a good classic folk song about boys growing into men, “Father and Son” is a wonderful choice.  Telling the tale of a father and his need to impart his wisdom upon his son before he passes away, it’s very thought-provoking and deep.
  10. “Spirit of a Boy, Wisdom of a Man” by Randy Travis: This is a powerful song about a boy becoming a man, and the tough choices he’s faced with. It’s a good song that reminds us that sometimes boys want to take on too much responsibility but, in the end, they are still young boys at heart.
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Do girls always seem to lose interest in you over time? Want to know what to do? Here’s how to keep a girl interested in you…

Is it roses every date? Fancy dinners? Expensive vacations? Sharing your feelings? Should you be the nice guy? Or maybe you should be the jerk?

Ummm… NO! None of those, actually.

Here are 7 powerful tips on how to keep her interested in you.

Some of them are common sense tips that lots of guys fail to use. Some of these tips are counter-intuitive and very potent when you use them correctly.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #1: Fun Dates

Read our article on how to plan a date with a girl. If you want to keep things exciting for her (and you!) do fun and exciting things together.

This could be as simple as going to play darts (a favorite first date of mine) or cooking together. With good girls who have made it past your initial screening process you can do more involved dates: rafting, rock climbing, snowboarding.

Learn kung-fu. Take dance classes. Give her missions to complete between dates.

Enjoy life together.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #2: Give Her Space

Give her space. Always let her be the one coming to you. Stop chasing after her.

Stop being Mr. Octopus, afraid to let her go, and let her be the one touching you.

Don’t fawn over her how incredible and wonderful you think she is.

Don’t see her every day. Early on in the dating process, no more than once a week is ideal. Even if you live together, give yourselves time to do your own thing.

Don’t call her every day. Stop texting her all the time.

But what if she says she wants all these things? Of course, girls who like you will say that they want more time together. This is when it is even more important to give her (and yourself) space.

And when she wants more, more, more and you want to maintain the space needed to build a great relationship (and keep her interest in you rising and rising and rising) follow tip #3…

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #3: Say No

She wants a man. Not a pushover who bends over or jumps every time she snaps her fingers.

Say no. Be assertive.

A key feature in our live seminars is assertiveness training.

If you’re not willing to say no (without saying the word ‘no’) then she’s going to walk all over you. Even a good woman who wants to make you happy can end up making your life miserable if she doesn’t know where your boundaries are.

If she crosses a line that she didn’t know existed – that’s your fault. If she crosses a line that she was well aware of – that’s her fault. She’s out.

Stop being her girlfriend and start being a man who has rules and boundaries and communicate those boundaries in a straightforward, honest and respectful manner.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #4: Make Her Laugh

Make her laugh.

I repeat – Make her laugh!

Stop being so serious all the time. Seriously. Stop.

If you can make her laugh, you’re well on your way to a lifetime of fun times. Most guys make the mistake of getting too serious way too fast.

How soon is too soon? Ever.

The goal is to be that couple who is still smiling, laughing and flirting together 10, 20, 40 years later. THAT is how you enjoy your life to the fullest.

And so far, we’ve found no easier and better way of keeping a woman interested in us that to keep her smiling and laughing. What’s the best part? This works even better with quality women with good attitudes.

Go read our advice on making girls laugh for more great ideas on this topic.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #5: Maintain Mystery

Maintain mystery.

Don’t share everything with her all at once.

Spoon-feed yourself to her. She doesn’t need your whole life story right away.

Revealing the good parts of yourself to her slowly lets you both savor and enjoy the process of getting to know each other. If she’s a great girl for you then there is no rush. She’ll find out all about you eventually without you making a show of vomiting your entire life story on the first date.

You always want her wondering about you.

You can’t do that if she thinks she knows everything about you (even if she doesn’t). We know extremely happy married couples where the man continues to play the mystery card years and decades into the relationship!

Just remember that you can always keep her wondering about you, even years down the line when she knows you better than anyone else in your life.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #6: Keep Your Problems To Yourself

I don’t care how much she wants you to open up to her. I don’t care who tells you that it helps create a “connection.”

If you’ve got baggage, don’t give it to her. It’s just going to weigh her down, destroy the relationship and kill her interest in you in the long-run.

Our research and experience shows that when couples stop dumping the bad stuff in their life on their partners, it dramatically increases the overall happiness and longevity of the relationship. This includes your stress, worries, the bad parts of your past, your complaints, your fears and anything else that is generally negative.

This is different from hiding yourself from her or pretending to be something you’re not. Rather, it’s simply making a conscious choice to bring more fun, excitement and positivity into the relationship. Given the option between talking about something positive (“I found a great restaurant for us to go to!”), or something negative (“My client was a jerk today…”), stick with the positive.

If you’re with her long enough, there will probably be some difficult times that the two of you will deal with. That’s fine. But don’t push the hard times to the front of the stage. Focus on the good in life.

You want her time with you to be uplifting, enjoyable, exciting, fun, relaxing and good. Keep your problems to yourself.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #7: Find The Right Girl

Are flowers the key to her heart? Flower vendors say yes. We say no.

Find the right woman.

But wait! You wanted advice on how to keep her interested in you, not somebody telling you to find a new girl, right?

I’ll tell you straight up – sometimes, with some girls, nothing you do is going to work to build a happy, mutually fulfilling relationship.

Nothing.

Maybe the chemistry between you two is off. Maybe she was never that into you from the start. Maybe she has some serious issues and baggage that prevent will prevent her from ever having a good relationship with guys in general, and you in particular.

Whatever the issue, sometimes the best move is to find a different girl.

Upgrade.

When you’ve got a great girl who likes you THEN you can focus on making the relationship as mutually smooth, fun and exciting as possible.

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Do girls always seem to lose interest in you over time? Want to know what to do? Here’s how to keep a girl interested in you…

Is it roses every date? Fancy dinners? Expensive vacations? Sharing your feelings? Should you be the nice guy? Or maybe you should be the jerk?

Ummm… NO! None of those, actually.

Here are 7 powerful tips on how to keep her interested in you.

Some of them are common sense tips that lots of guys fail to use. Some of these tips are counter-intuitive and very potent when you use them correctly.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #1: Fun Dates

Read our article on how to plan a date with a girl. If you want to keep things exciting for her (and you!) do fun and exciting things together.

This could be as simple as going to play darts (a favorite first date of mine) or cooking together. With good girls who have made it past your initial screening process you can do more involved dates: rafting, rock climbing, snowboarding.

Learn kung-fu. Take dance classes. Give her missions to complete between dates.

Enjoy life together.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #2: Give Her Space

Give her space. Always let her be the one coming to you. Stop chasing after her.

Stop being Mr. Octopus, afraid to let her go, and let her be the one touching you.

Don’t fawn over her how incredible and wonderful you think she is.

Don’t see her every day. Early on in the dating process, no more than once a week is ideal. Even if you live together, give yourselves time to do your own thing.

Don’t call her every day. Stop texting her all the time.

But what if she says she wants all these things? Of course, girls who like you will say that they want more time together. This is when it is even more important to give her (and yourself) space.

And when she wants more, more, more and you want to maintain the space needed to build a great relationship (and keep her interest in you rising and rising and rising) follow tip #3…

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #3: Say No

She wants a man. Not a pushover who bends over or jumps every time she snaps her fingers.

Say no. Be assertive.

A key feature in our live seminars is assertiveness training.

If you’re not willing to say no (without saying the word ‘no’) then she’s going to walk all over you. Even a good woman who wants to make you happy can end up making your life miserable if she doesn’t know where your boundaries are.

If she crosses a line that she didn’t know existed – that’s your fault. If she crosses a line that she was well aware of – that’s her fault. She’s out.

Stop being her girlfriend and start being a man who has rules and boundaries and communicate those boundaries in a straightforward, honest and respectful manner.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #4: Make Her Laugh

Make her laugh.

I repeat – Make her laugh!

Stop being so serious all the time. Seriously. Stop.

If you can make her laugh, you’re well on your way to a lifetime of fun times. Most guys make the mistake of getting too serious way too fast.

How soon is too soon? Ever.

The goal is to be that couple who is still smiling, laughing and flirting together 10, 20, 40 years later. THAT is how you enjoy your life to the fullest.

And so far, we’ve found no easier and better way of keeping a woman interested in us that to keep her smiling and laughing. What’s the best part? This works even better with quality women with good attitudes.

Go read our advice on making girls laugh for more great ideas on this topic.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #5: Maintain Mystery

Maintain mystery.

Don’t share everything with her all at once.

Spoon-feed yourself to her. She doesn’t need your whole life story right away.

Revealing the good parts of yourself to her slowly lets you both savor and enjoy the process of getting to know each other. If she’s a great girl for you then there is no rush. She’ll find out all about you eventually without you making a show of vomiting your entire life story on the first date.

You always want her wondering about you.

You can’t do that if she thinks she knows everything about you (even if she doesn’t). We know extremely happy married couples where the man continues to play the mystery card years and decades into the relationship!

Just remember that you can always keep her wondering about you, even years down the line when she knows you better than anyone else in your life.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #6: Keep Your Problems To Yourself

I don’t care how much she wants you to open up to her. I don’t care who tells you that it helps create a “connection.”

If you’ve got baggage, don’t give it to her. It’s just going to weigh her down, destroy the relationship and kill her interest in you in the long-run.

Our research and experience shows that when couples stop dumping the bad stuff in their life on their partners, it dramatically increases the overall happiness and longevity of the relationship. This includes your stress, worries, the bad parts of your past, your complaints, your fears and anything else that is generally negative.

This is different from hiding yourself from her or pretending to be something you’re not. Rather, it’s simply making a conscious choice to bring more fun, excitement and positivity into the relationship. Given the option between talking about something positive (“I found a great restaurant for us to go to!”), or something negative (“My client was a jerk today…”), stick with the positive.

If you’re with her long enough, there will probably be some difficult times that the two of you will deal with. That’s fine. But don’t push the hard times to the front of the stage. Focus on the good in life.

You want her time with you to be uplifting, enjoyable, exciting, fun, relaxing and good. Keep your problems to yourself.

How To Keep Her Interested In You Tip #7: Find The Right Girl

Are flowers the key to her heart? Flower vendors say yes. We say no.

Find the right woman.

But wait! You wanted advice on how to keep her interested in you, not somebody telling you to find a new girl, right?

I’ll tell you straight up – sometimes, with some girls, nothing you do is going to work to build a happy, mutually fulfilling relationship.

Nothing.

Maybe the chemistry between you two is off. Maybe she was never that into you from the start. Maybe she has some serious issues and baggage that prevent will prevent her from ever having a good relationship with guys in general, and you in particular.

Whatever the issue, sometimes the best move is to find a different girl.

Upgrade.

When you’ve got a great girl who likes you THEN you can focus on making the relationship as mutually smooth, fun and exciting as possible.

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This article shows you the best day to go on a date in order to maximize your success with high quality women.

I poked my head into a popular men’s magazine today. Lo and behold, there was some bad dating advice wrapped up in a pretty bow, all designed to make guys feel like they are doing things right, without ever really knowing (or testing) what actually works.

A little background: The column was written by a woman and she used a subtle guilt-trip to convince guys that they are “doing the right thing”.

First of all, always be careful when you hear dating advice from women. (Actually, be careful when you hear dating advice from men, too. Doesn’t matter who it’s from.)

Most of the time women will give guys advice because they think that’s what they want while promptly dumping and rejecting every guy who follow said advice.

Actions speak louder than words.

The mail-in reader’s question was, “What day is the best date day?”

The female writer for the magazine replied the best date days were weekends, especially early on.

We disagree completely.

I Recommend You Avoid Weekends Early in the Dating Process

Avoid weekends.

Especially before she is your exclusive girlfriend.

We save weekends for our exclusive, declared girlfriends. Girls who we’re just dating (ie, they haven’t yet become our proper girlfriend) get weekday evenings.

Keep in mind, avoiding weekends is the most useful when you start dating a woman who is actually potential girlfriend material. If she’s just a fling who you don’t really care if she stays or goes, then feel free to see her whenever you want.

The following advice is for when there might actually be a potentially great relationship in the future.

What If She Thinks I’m Seeing Someone Else on the Weekend?

What’s the best day to go on a date? Hopefully not Leap Day.

Want to know what was the reasoning of the female columnist earlier was?

I’m paraphrasing, “If you see her on the weekday she’ll think you’re saving the weekend for someone else.”

Notice the subtle guilt-trip built-in to that.

Let me clarify the Loveawake position on this subject: Weekends are reserved for girlfriends. If you don’t have a girlfriend then weekends are reserved for meeting new women, relaxing, doing your hobbies, working on your own projects, improving yourself or spending time with friends and family.

She has to earn the right to spend weekends with you.

How?

By showing you that she is a really great girl in addition to her looks.

But what if she asks what you’re doing on the weekend?

You deflect her question with wit and humor (Smart girls will understand that this is your polite way of telling her ‘none of your business’).

But what if she keeps pressing to find out what you did during the weekend?

Then you get a chance to work on your assertive skills. It really, truly is absolutely none of her business.

The Exceptions: When Can You Go on Weekend Dates?

There is one big exception to the no-weekend guideline:

If she has already begged you to be her boyfriend and you’ve accepted so that she is your declared, exclusive, proper girlfriend. In which case, spending time together on weekends is all fine and dandy. Have a blast.

The other minor exception would be when she invites you on a weekend date (if you’re doing things like we teach then this will happen a lot more than you might expect).

Then… Maybe… If she’s been a good girl so far… And it’s not too short notice… And it sounds like a fun date plan… And you want to spend some time with her… Then you can accept. Otherwise, make a counteroffer to see her on a weekday.

You want to be the mysterious, assertive, confident man who has his own life.

How to Handle Her Concerns That You Are Dating Multiple Women

And to address the concern that the guilt-trip laced advice from the magazine columnist brought up…

…What if she thinks you’re seeing another girl?

Good!

Listen up dude, girls are out there dating lots of different guys searching around for one who they like.

If you’re smart and you want to stand a greater chance of finding the woman of your dreams, you’ll do the same.

Before becoming exclusive boyfriend and girlfriend is when you are supposed to date multiple women. Heck, date as many women as possible until you find one who is so amazing that you don’t want to date any other women.

When a beautiful woman with a good attitude who is completely into you thinks you’re possibly dating other girls (and don’t you ever talk about other girls to her), she rises to the challenge and become the very best she can for you.

The women that we train our guys to be with (intelligent women with ambition) want to beat out the competition, claim you for their own and win their right to spend weekends with you.

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This article shows you the best day to go on a date in order to maximize your success with high quality women.

I poked my head into a popular men’s magazine today. Lo and behold, there was some bad dating advice wrapped up in a pretty bow, all designed to make guys feel like they are doing things right, without ever really knowing (or testing) what actually works.

A little background: The column was written by a woman and she used a subtle guilt-trip to convince guys that they are “doing the right thing”.

First of all, always be careful when you hear dating advice from women. (Actually, be careful when you hear dating advice from men, too. Doesn’t matter who it’s from.)

Most of the time women will give guys advice because they think that’s what they want while promptly dumping and rejecting every guy who follow said advice.

Actions speak louder than words.

The mail-in reader’s question was, “What day is the best date day?”

The female writer for the magazine replied the best date days were weekends, especially early on.

We disagree completely.

I Recommend You Avoid Weekends Early in the Dating Process

Avoid weekends.

Especially before she is your exclusive girlfriend.

We save weekends for our exclusive, declared girlfriends. Girls who we’re just dating (ie, they haven’t yet become our proper girlfriend) get weekday evenings.

Keep in mind, avoiding weekends is the most useful when you start dating a woman who is actually potential girlfriend material. If she’s just a fling who you don’t really care if she stays or goes, then feel free to see her whenever you want.

The following advice is for when there might actually be a potentially great relationship in the future.

What If She Thinks I’m Seeing Someone Else on the Weekend?

What’s the best day to go on a date? Hopefully not Leap Day.

Want to know what was the reasoning of the female columnist earlier was?

I’m paraphrasing, “If you see her on the weekday she’ll think you’re saving the weekend for someone else.”

Notice the subtle guilt-trip built-in to that.

Let me clarify the Loveawake position on this subject: Weekends are reserved for girlfriends. If you don’t have a girlfriend then weekends are reserved for meeting new women, relaxing, doing your hobbies, working on your own projects, improving yourself or spending time with friends and family.

She has to earn the right to spend weekends with you.

How?

By showing you that she is a really great girl in addition to her looks.

But what if she asks what you’re doing on the weekend?

You deflect her question with wit and humor (Smart girls will understand that this is your polite way of telling her ‘none of your business’).

But what if she keeps pressing to find out what you did during the weekend?

Then you get a chance to work on your assertive skills. It really, truly is absolutely none of her business.

The Exceptions: When Can You Go on Weekend Dates?

There is one big exception to the no-weekend guideline:

If she has already begged you to be her boyfriend and you’ve accepted so that she is your declared, exclusive, proper girlfriend. In which case, spending time together on weekends is all fine and dandy. Have a blast.

The other minor exception would be when she invites you on a weekend date (if you’re doing things like we teach then this will happen a lot more than you might expect).

Then… Maybe… If she’s been a good girl so far… And it’s not too short notice… And it sounds like a fun date plan… And you want to spend some time with her… Then you can accept. Otherwise, make a counteroffer to see her on a weekday.

You want to be the mysterious, assertive, confident man who has his own life.

How to Handle Her Concerns That You Are Dating Multiple Women

And to address the concern that the guilt-trip laced advice from the magazine columnist brought up…

…What if she thinks you’re seeing another girl?

Good!

Listen up dude, girls are out there dating lots of different guys searching around for one who they like.

If you’re smart and you want to stand a greater chance of finding the woman of your dreams, you’ll do the same.

Before becoming exclusive boyfriend and girlfriend is when you are supposed to date multiple women. Heck, date as many women as possible until you find one who is so amazing that you don’t want to date any other women.

When a beautiful woman with a good attitude who is completely into you thinks you’re possibly dating other girls (and don’t you ever talk about other girls to her), she rises to the challenge and become the very best she can for you.

The women that we train our guys to be with (intelligent women with ambition) want to beat out the competition, claim you for their own and win their right to spend weekends with you.

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Whenever anyone tells something about what you “should” do, it might be a good idea to be wary. Should is a classic guilt tripping word. These words try to dictate another man’s actions by what he SHOULD or SHOULDN’T do, as opposed to actual logical reasons.

This ties right into dating. With all the competing ideas and dating advice for men, it’s quite common for guys to to throw down a heaping handful of SHOULDS… All without ever questioning the assumptions behind the “should.”

Here is one of many unnecessary “shoulds” that society seems to install guys these days:

Let’s break this one down (so we can ultimately overcome it). We’ve heard this one from our clients, “Men SHOULDN’T talk to women on the streets… Especially if they’re looking for a date!” perhaps followed by rationalizing and justifying. Maybe something like, “Men SHOULDN’T talk to women on the streets to find a date because… That’s not a place where women go to meet people. Not only that, it will creep them out! No one is open to talking there.”

Upon inspecting and testing these rationalizations, none of them hold true to reality. So let’s take it apart.

“That’s not a place where women go to meet people.” – Really? Can you know that to be true? Through our own lived experience, the team here at Loveawake have met plenty of people (guys and girls) who were totally open to having a friendly chat on the street.

“Not only that, it will creep them out!” – Really? How certain are you? With the amount of women we’ve met, and dated, after meeting them on the street, we think it’s highly unlikely that all women, or even a statistically meaningful portion of them would ever even be disturbed in the slightest. Ones who don’t want to talk ignore us and keep walking, and that’s good since she didn’t waste our time. Ones who do want to talk, stop and talk to us. Everyone wins.

“No one is open to talking here.” – Really? How does that account for the thousands of women we’ve started polite, friendly conversations with on the street? How does that account for all the phone numbers and dates we’ve gotten from talking to women on the street? How does that account for all of our statistics which indicate otherwise?

In this manner, we can cut through each rationalization one at a time, or we can eliminate the problem closer to the root by questioning the “should” statement.

Of course, that’s not saying to automatically disagree with any “should” statement. But rather, whenever hearing one, we caution you to take a step back, listen to what’s actually being said, and consider alternative possibilities. Possibilities like:

Keep your ears peeled and your ears open as you move through the wild, wacky world – there’s a lot of people and ideas out there that may not be working in your best interest. Be especially wary whenever hearing SHOULD in conjunction with dating advice.

Consider it a sign to question and investigate whether it is good advice or not. Always test things with your own logic and experience (even our advice). In the meantime, you should Be Amazing… Or at least step back and make a conscious effort to consider if it’ll work out well for you.

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Whenever anyone tells something about what you “should” do, it might be a good idea to be wary. Should is a classic guilt tripping word. These words try to dictate another man’s actions by what he SHOULD or SHOULDN’T do, as opposed to actual logical reasons.

This ties right into dating. With all the competing ideas and dating advice for men, it’s quite common for guys to to throw down a heaping handful of SHOULDS… All without ever questioning the assumptions behind the “should.”

Here is one of many unnecessary “shoulds” that society seems to install guys these days:

Let’s break this one down (so we can ultimately overcome it). We’ve heard this one from our clients, “Men SHOULDN’T talk to women on the streets… Especially if they’re looking for a date!” perhaps followed by rationalizing and justifying. Maybe something like, “Men SHOULDN’T talk to women on the streets to find a date because… That’s not a place where women go to meet people. Not only that, it will creep them out! No one is open to talking there.”

Upon inspecting and testing these rationalizations, none of them hold true to reality. So let’s take it apart.

“That’s not a place where women go to meet people.” – Really? Can you know that to be true? Through our own lived experience, the team here at Loveawake have met plenty of people (guys and girls) who were totally open to having a friendly chat on the street.

“Not only that, it will creep them out!” – Really? How certain are you? With the amount of women we’ve met, and dated, after meeting them on the street, we think it’s highly unlikely that all women, or even a statistically meaningful portion of them would ever even be disturbed in the slightest. Ones who don’t want to talk ignore us and keep walking, and that’s good since she didn’t waste our time. Ones who do want to talk, stop and talk to us. Everyone wins.

“No one is open to talking here.” – Really? How does that account for the thousands of women we’ve started polite, friendly conversations with on the street? How does that account for all the phone numbers and dates we’ve gotten from talking to women on the street? How does that account for all of our statistics which indicate otherwise?

In this manner, we can cut through each rationalization one at a time, or we can eliminate the problem closer to the root by questioning the “should” statement.

Of course, that’s not saying to automatically disagree with any “should” statement. But rather, whenever hearing one, we caution you to take a step back, listen to what’s actually being said, and consider alternative possibilities. Possibilities like:

Keep your ears peeled and your ears open as you move through the wild, wacky world – there’s a lot of people and ideas out there that may not be working in your best interest. Be especially wary whenever hearing SHOULD in conjunction with dating advice.

Consider it a sign to question and investigate whether it is good advice or not. Always test things with your own logic and experience (even our advice). In the meantime, you should Be Amazing… Or at least step back and make a conscious effort to consider if it’ll work out well for you.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1594049506) } [4]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(53) "Should You Wear A Suit When Meeting And Dating Women?" ["link"]=> string(91) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/06/should-you-wear-a-suit-when-meeting-and-dating-women/" ["comments"]=> string(99) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/06/should-you-wear-a-suit-when-meeting-and-dating-women/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 06 Jul 2020 15:21:39 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["category"]=> string(13) "Dating Advice" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5331" ["description"]=> string(338) "Why not give yourself every advantage you can? Our research shows that wearing THE SUIT is the most effective clothing choice a man can make while meeting and dating women We’re often baffled by how fervently some guys resist wanting to wear the suit (custom tailored 3-piece with a red tie) for meeting and dating women. If […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(4543) "

Why not give yourself every advantage you can? Our research shows that wearing THE SUIT is the most effective clothing choice a man can make while meeting and dating women

We’re often baffled by how fervently some guys resist wanting to wear the suit (custom tailored 3-piece with a red tie) for meeting and dating women. If you have the means to afford wearing The Suit, then we’ve found this to be the most effective clothes a man can wear while meeting and dating women. Why not give yourself every advantage you can?

When it comes to this issue, guys not wanting to optimize themselves in every way could very well be a deep-rooted belief about themselves and their worthiness. But rather than face up to themselves, they’ll come up with all sorts of completely rational reasons for not wearing it:

These are all true.

100% true.

“But I’ve met, dated and slept with lots of girls without ever wearing a suit!”

Okay, so The Suit was not what you were wearing when you first met, dated, and bopped girls in the past. That doesn’t mean much. I believe there’s a big difference between saying ‘I’ve tried Mexican food a whole bunch of times and it just doesn’t agree with me’ and ‘I don’t like Mexican food, but I’ve never really tried it’.

Yes, it would be easier and cheaper to dress comfortably, as guys have dressed up until now, and simply take what comes to them. In the end, though, it’s always just a question of how badly we want something and what we’re willing to do to get it, isn’t it?

None of those reasons above cancel out the simple fact that, based on the stats we’ve compiled from 10s of thousands of our own approaches and dates, no item of clothing beats The Suit when it comes to increasing the number of hot High-Value girls that will stop and talk to you when talking to a large number of women every single day.

Will girls stop and talk to you if you don’t wear The Suit?

Of course.

If you don’t wear The Suit are you damned to the purgatory of WoW and wanking off to intarweb pr0n?

Of course not.

Guys have been getting laid without wearing The Suit since … well, before The Suit was even invented. And we have all heard the saying that ‘clothes make the man.’

A bunch of years ago, a really tall PUA put forth the notion that wearing a tall black hat with aviator goggles and sporting black nail polish with a labret would really pull the chicks.

He was right, it worked.

For him.

For getting the attentions of young strippers hanging out in the club and bar scene near Hollywood & Vine.

Note how many girls stop to talk with you, how many give you their name when you ask for it, how many laugh at your jokes, and how many give you their phone numbers when you ask for them. Record your stats for future reference.

If you want to make sure your tests are fair and accurate, you might consider going to the same venue, at roughly the same time, same, same, same as much as possible (yeah, we all know nothing’s ever perfect, but do your best).

Don’t do anything to deliberately skew your data – you know you’ll be watching you. Again, keep meticulous stats on how many girls stop to talk with you, how many laugh at your jokes, and how many give you their phone numbers when you ask for them. Again, record your stats for future reference.

Compare your results from the days you rocked The Suit to the days you were wearing your favorite casual look.

Make an informed choice about what you wear when meeting and dating women.

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Why not give yourself every advantage you can? Our research shows that wearing THE SUIT is the most effective clothing choice a man can make while meeting and dating women

We’re often baffled by how fervently some guys resist wanting to wear the suit (custom tailored 3-piece with a red tie) for meeting and dating women. If you have the means to afford wearing The Suit, then we’ve found this to be the most effective clothes a man can wear while meeting and dating women. Why not give yourself every advantage you can?

When it comes to this issue, guys not wanting to optimize themselves in every way could very well be a deep-rooted belief about themselves and their worthiness. But rather than face up to themselves, they’ll come up with all sorts of completely rational reasons for not wearing it:

These are all true.

100% true.

“But I’ve met, dated and slept with lots of girls without ever wearing a suit!”

Okay, so The Suit was not what you were wearing when you first met, dated, and bopped girls in the past. That doesn’t mean much. I believe there’s a big difference between saying ‘I’ve tried Mexican food a whole bunch of times and it just doesn’t agree with me’ and ‘I don’t like Mexican food, but I’ve never really tried it’.

Yes, it would be easier and cheaper to dress comfortably, as guys have dressed up until now, and simply take what comes to them. In the end, though, it’s always just a question of how badly we want something and what we’re willing to do to get it, isn’t it?

None of those reasons above cancel out the simple fact that, based on the stats we’ve compiled from 10s of thousands of our own approaches and dates, no item of clothing beats The Suit when it comes to increasing the number of hot High-Value girls that will stop and talk to you when talking to a large number of women every single day.

Will girls stop and talk to you if you don’t wear The Suit?

Of course.

If you don’t wear The Suit are you damned to the purgatory of WoW and wanking off to intarweb pr0n?

Of course not.

Guys have been getting laid without wearing The Suit since … well, before The Suit was even invented. And we have all heard the saying that ‘clothes make the man.’

A bunch of years ago, a really tall PUA put forth the notion that wearing a tall black hat with aviator goggles and sporting black nail polish with a labret would really pull the chicks.

He was right, it worked.

For him.

For getting the attentions of young strippers hanging out in the club and bar scene near Hollywood & Vine.

Note how many girls stop to talk with you, how many give you their name when you ask for it, how many laugh at your jokes, and how many give you their phone numbers when you ask for them. Record your stats for future reference.

If you want to make sure your tests are fair and accurate, you might consider going to the same venue, at roughly the same time, same, same, same as much as possible (yeah, we all know nothing’s ever perfect, but do your best).

Don’t do anything to deliberately skew your data – you know you’ll be watching you. Again, keep meticulous stats on how many girls stop to talk with you, how many laugh at your jokes, and how many give you their phone numbers when you ask for them. Again, record your stats for future reference.

Compare your results from the days you rocked The Suit to the days you were wearing your favorite casual look.

Make an informed choice about what you wear when meeting and dating women.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1594048899) } [5]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(59) "Why Aren’t Most Professional Dating Coaches Professional?" ["link"]=> string(94) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/06/why-arent-most-professional-dating-coaches-professional/" ["comments"]=> string(102) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/06/why-arent-most-professional-dating-coaches-professional/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 06 Jul 2020 15:12:43 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["category"]=> string(91) "Relationship AdviceGeneral Dating AdviceProfessional Dating adviceProfessional Dating Coach" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5327" ["description"]=> string(342) "For many years we’ve encouraged guys to carefully track their stats when it comes to women. This has been a point of heated contention when we meet other professional dating coaches who advocate more “go with the flow” and “follow your feelings” approaches to dating advice. Here at Loveawake, we like science. And we like […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(4720) "

For many years we’ve encouraged guys to carefully track their stats when it comes to women. This has been a point of heated contention when we meet other professional dating coaches who advocate more “go with the flow” and “follow your feelings” approaches to dating advice.

Here at Loveawake, we like science.

And we like to know that what we are doing is working. If following your feelings worked, most guys would never need a professional dating coach in the first place.

Why Should You Find A Professional Dating Coach Who Monitors Stats?

Monitoring the numbers give us ratios such as:

These are the biggies we always watch closely.

We’ll also track split variables such as opening with a ‘Hi, what’s your name?’ versus another type of opener, or approaching while wearing the suit versus more casual clothes, or one casual outfit over another, or approaching in one location versus another, or one time of day versus another, or calling her on the phone versus texting her, or one style of date or another, among many many others.

This allows us to actually test everything being released and hyped up in the dating advice world against what we’ve previously found works best for us and change our recommendations when we find something better.

Knowing The Difference Between Women and Numbers

You don’t need to be a rocket surgeon to figure this stuff out…

And while we acknowledge that girls are not numbers and interactions are not some video game with goal posts that you have to get through in order to advance to the next level, we’re also wise to the fact that in pretty much every worthwhile endeavor or activity, statistics and the tracking of same are always used by the most successful in all fields.

It’s how they measure performance in order to make adjustments to get better results.

Team owners use stats and numbers to determine player salaries based on batting average, earned run average, games won/lost, 3-point shots, rebounds, interceptions thrown, turnovers, assists, shots on goal, goals scored, etc.

Coaches use stats and numbers to determine training regimens, workout schedules, time-off/time out durations, etc.

Business owners use stats and numbers to determine what products and services they’ll put on the market: net sales, net profits, profit margins, purchases, advertising budgets, sales commissions, executive salaries, marketing campaigns, preferred vendors, and prices.

Hollywood uses stats and numbers to determine the salaries they’ll pay to stars and directors: previous successes in bringing butts to movie seats regardless of the person’s drug and/or alcohol abuse, infidelities, and other scandals.

And Casinos use stats and numbers to, well, take us all to the cleaners.

Come to think of it, you’ll see professionals the world over using stats, spreadsheets, and systems to optimize their results. NO exceptions.

So why then is it that soooo many guys, even most so-called professional dating coaches, are utterly and completely repelled at the thought of tracking their numbers with girls?

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For many years we’ve encouraged guys to carefully track their stats when it comes to women. This has been a point of heated contention when we meet other professional dating coaches who advocate more “go with the flow” and “follow your feelings” approaches to dating advice.

Here at Loveawake, we like science.

And we like to know that what we are doing is working. If following your feelings worked, most guys would never need a professional dating coach in the first place.

Why Should You Find A Professional Dating Coach Who Monitors Stats?

Monitoring the numbers give us ratios such as:

These are the biggies we always watch closely.

We’ll also track split variables such as opening with a ‘Hi, what’s your name?’ versus another type of opener, or approaching while wearing the suit versus more casual clothes, or one casual outfit over another, or approaching in one location versus another, or one time of day versus another, or calling her on the phone versus texting her, or one style of date or another, among many many others.

This allows us to actually test everything being released and hyped up in the dating advice world against what we’ve previously found works best for us and change our recommendations when we find something better.

Knowing The Difference Between Women and Numbers

You don’t need to be a rocket surgeon to figure this stuff out…

And while we acknowledge that girls are not numbers and interactions are not some video game with goal posts that you have to get through in order to advance to the next level, we’re also wise to the fact that in pretty much every worthwhile endeavor or activity, statistics and the tracking of same are always used by the most successful in all fields.

It’s how they measure performance in order to make adjustments to get better results.

Team owners use stats and numbers to determine player salaries based on batting average, earned run average, games won/lost, 3-point shots, rebounds, interceptions thrown, turnovers, assists, shots on goal, goals scored, etc.

Coaches use stats and numbers to determine training regimens, workout schedules, time-off/time out durations, etc.

Business owners use stats and numbers to determine what products and services they’ll put on the market: net sales, net profits, profit margins, purchases, advertising budgets, sales commissions, executive salaries, marketing campaigns, preferred vendors, and prices.

Hollywood uses stats and numbers to determine the salaries they’ll pay to stars and directors: previous successes in bringing butts to movie seats regardless of the person’s drug and/or alcohol abuse, infidelities, and other scandals.

And Casinos use stats and numbers to, well, take us all to the cleaners.

Come to think of it, you’ll see professionals the world over using stats, spreadsheets, and systems to optimize their results. NO exceptions.

So why then is it that soooo many guys, even most so-called professional dating coaches, are utterly and completely repelled at the thought of tracking their numbers with girls?

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1594048363) } [6]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(40) "Romantic Films Men Can Tolerate Watching" ["link"]=> string(79) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/06/romantic-films-men-can-tolerate-watching/" ["comments"]=> string(87) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/06/romantic-films-men-can-tolerate-watching/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 06 Jul 2020 14:56:30 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(10) "Sarah Hill" } ["category"]=> string(40) "InterestingadvicemoviesROMANTIC COMEDIES" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5317" ["description"]=> string(312) "How many romantic movies women drag their men too? From my own personal dating experience, I can say that I have dragged my boyfriend to a fair share of romantic movies that he in fact enjoyed because not all of them are mushy.  Some actually can be watched without seeing your boyfriend roll his eyes […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(9519) "

How many romantic movies women drag their men too? From my own personal dating experience, I can say that I have dragged my boyfriend to a fair share of romantic movies that he in fact enjoyed because not all of them are mushy.  Some actually can be watched without seeing your boyfriend roll his eyes in the back of his head in you perpherial vision.

So here’s a list of movies both men and women can get a kick out of instead of going to watch the numerous clichéd rom coms starring someone from “Must See TV.”

Zack and Miri Make a Porno

This effort from Kevin Smith is probably one of the most realistic romantic comedies (aside from the actual porno) I have ever witnessed before in my lifetime and it was really refreshing to see a movie with real dialogue and real characters. It’s not a movie that is riddled with tongue in cheek voiceovers and has characters buying and wearing expensive fashion labels from their freelance writing salary. It’s a modern day When Harry Met Sally and it makes Seth Rogen into a very believable romantic lead despite the constant profane things coming out of his mouth. I’d rather watch a romantic comedy that refers to Amazon.com bought vibrators and period panties over Prada any day.

True Romance

Almost every one of my close guy friends have stated that True Romance is their ultimate favourite romantic movie. Helmed by Quentin Tarantino and directed by Tony Scott, this is an essential guy’s movie that is driven by romance, yet is full of kills and action. I mean, what is more romantic than watching a guy fall in love with a hooker, kill her pimp, steal his coke and then go on the run together “Bonnie and Clyde” style? Did I mention Brad Pitt is in it? Nuff said.

Out of Sight

Out of Sight is one of my favourite movies of all time and I find it very surprising that a lot of people have not seen it yet. I own the VHS, the DVD, the soundtrack and the huge vintage poster that I always get compliments for.  The chemistry between George Clooney and Jennifer Lopez is so mind-blowing that it’s surprising that George Clooney didn’t become a real-life ex-husband for J.Lo after this. Full of great performances, actors and the most sensual and homaged love scene without nudity in history, it’s a movie destined to be enjoyed by couples.

Shaun of the Dead

The term “rom-zom-com” was helmed after this 2004 now cult classic arrived on the horror scene. It’s a romantic comedy with zombies….need I say more?

The Best Man

This 1999 movie resurrected the career of Morris Chestnut and received great reviews, yet it was hardly seen from the general public.  Now that majority of the film’s stars are now budding stars themselves, (Terrence Howard, Harold Perrineau and Taye Diggs) it’s a movie that should be revisited and watched with a significant other. Giving away the “conflict” in the movie would do you a disservice, but all I can say is that this romantic movie was made for men and deals with conflicts and moral dilemmas men go through in relationships. It’s as insightful to men as an episode of Sex and the City is to women.

Chasing Amy

Kevin Smith just knows how to write honest and genuine romance and he nailed it out the park with Chasing Amy Although, I would not usually recommend to watch this movie on my own because the ending is so depressing and bittersweet, I think it’s a great movie for men to watch to teach them to get over their own insecurities. Girls, the perfect time to show this is if you have just told your man “your number.”

One Fine Day

This is my all time favourite romantic movie and the only reason why it’s not higher on the list is because everything about it says “stereotypical chick flick.” It is however a chick flick that’s entertaining for both genders (especially divorcees) and is a humorous watch. Unlike other gushy rom coms, Michelle Pfeiffer and George Clooney spend majority of the movie insulting each other and it never gets old.  If you must face the “romantic comedy” gun, this film will be quick and painless.

As Good as it Gets

I love this movie. Almost everybody I know loves this movie….and just like Jerry Maguire, I can’t exactly tell you why. If I see it on TV, even if it’s on Peachtree, I have to watch it. Helen Hunt and Jack Nicholson deserved both of their Oscars and that line, “You make me want to be a better man” is a line that continues to bring tears to women’s’ eyes and curse words to men’s’ mouths for not being able to think of the line first.

The Mexican

Brad Pitt. Horseface…I mean Julia Roberts. James Gandofini. Murder, intrigue and 20 minutes of actual romance displayed on screen. A perfect romantic comedy for any man.

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How many romantic movies women drag their men too? From my own personal dating experience, I can say that I have dragged my boyfriend to a fair share of romantic movies that he in fact enjoyed because not all of them are mushy.  Some actually can be watched without seeing your boyfriend roll his eyes in the back of his head in you perpherial vision.

So here’s a list of movies both men and women can get a kick out of instead of going to watch the numerous clichéd rom coms starring someone from “Must See TV.”

Zack and Miri Make a Porno

This effort from Kevin Smith is probably one of the most realistic romantic comedies (aside from the actual porno) I have ever witnessed before in my lifetime and it was really refreshing to see a movie with real dialogue and real characters. It’s not a movie that is riddled with tongue in cheek voiceovers and has characters buying and wearing expensive fashion labels from their freelance writing salary. It’s a modern day When Harry Met Sally and it makes Seth Rogen into a very believable romantic lead despite the constant profane things coming out of his mouth. I’d rather watch a romantic comedy that refers to Amazon.com bought vibrators and period panties over Prada any day.

True Romance

Almost every one of my close guy friends have stated that True Romance is their ultimate favourite romantic movie. Helmed by Quentin Tarantino and directed by Tony Scott, this is an essential guy’s movie that is driven by romance, yet is full of kills and action. I mean, what is more romantic than watching a guy fall in love with a hooker, kill her pimp, steal his coke and then go on the run together “Bonnie and Clyde” style? Did I mention Brad Pitt is in it? Nuff said.

Out of Sight

Out of Sight is one of my favourite movies of all time and I find it very surprising that a lot of people have not seen it yet. I own the VHS, the DVD, the soundtrack and the huge vintage poster that I always get compliments for.  The chemistry between George Clooney and Jennifer Lopez is so mind-blowing that it’s surprising that George Clooney didn’t become a real-life ex-husband for J.Lo after this. Full of great performances, actors and the most sensual and homaged love scene without nudity in history, it’s a movie destined to be enjoyed by couples.

Shaun of the Dead

The term “rom-zom-com” was helmed after this 2004 now cult classic arrived on the horror scene. It’s a romantic comedy with zombies….need I say more?

The Best Man

This 1999 movie resurrected the career of Morris Chestnut and received great reviews, yet it was hardly seen from the general public.  Now that majority of the film’s stars are now budding stars themselves, (Terrence Howard, Harold Perrineau and Taye Diggs) it’s a movie that should be revisited and watched with a significant other. Giving away the “conflict” in the movie would do you a disservice, but all I can say is that this romantic movie was made for men and deals with conflicts and moral dilemmas men go through in relationships. It’s as insightful to men as an episode of Sex and the City is to women.

Chasing Amy

Kevin Smith just knows how to write honest and genuine romance and he nailed it out the park with Chasing Amy Although, I would not usually recommend to watch this movie on my own because the ending is so depressing and bittersweet, I think it’s a great movie for men to watch to teach them to get over their own insecurities. Girls, the perfect time to show this is if you have just told your man “your number.”

One Fine Day

This is my all time favourite romantic movie and the only reason why it’s not higher on the list is because everything about it says “stereotypical chick flick.” It is however a chick flick that’s entertaining for both genders (especially divorcees) and is a humorous watch. Unlike other gushy rom coms, Michelle Pfeiffer and George Clooney spend majority of the movie insulting each other and it never gets old.  If you must face the “romantic comedy” gun, this film will be quick and painless.

As Good as it Gets

I love this movie. Almost everybody I know loves this movie….and just like Jerry Maguire, I can’t exactly tell you why. If I see it on TV, even if it’s on Peachtree, I have to watch it. Helen Hunt and Jack Nicholson deserved both of their Oscars and that line, “You make me want to be a better man” is a line that continues to bring tears to women’s’ eyes and curse words to men’s’ mouths for not being able to think of the line first.

The Mexican

Brad Pitt. Horseface…I mean Julia Roberts. James Gandofini. Murder, intrigue and 20 minutes of actual romance displayed on screen. A perfect romantic comedy for any man.

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The sugar daddy lifestyle is not always full of luxuriousness and extravagance.

It’s neither full of prostitutes or call-girls.

A real sugar daddy is not always a “rich sugar daddy”, sometimes he’s humble, hard-working, and has a little bit of extra cash to spend on a special lady friend each month. It’s not far from the conventional dating world, it just has a cute name.

The sugar daddy lifestyle doesn’t always consist of lies which need to be fact-checked. It can be a very honest way of life, since the question of personal finance is already on the table. In-fact, there are no precursors to having the “money” conversation even on the first date.

Here are 10 exciting and enviable traits of the sugar daddy lifestyle:

10. Your sugar baby calls you a “Rich Sugar Daddy”, even if you’re far from it. Hey, it wins you points with her available friends.

9. You have to start adding creative physical traits to your contact list. You can only have so many Nicoles and Laurens before you have to get really specific with each one.

8. Your dance card is always full, even if you don’t want it to be. These girls are hungry and they want you, like, now!

7. The ladies finally understand what a “No String Attached Sugar Daddy” is, no awkward explanation necessary.

6. You are Aloof for the first time in your miserable life, kudos.

5. You get to use the word “no” for once, or twice… You don’t want to double-book sugar babies!

4. Your most annoying personality quirks are now the object of sugar baby’s desires. Don’t question it, just bask in it.

3. You answer more commonly to The Most Interesting Man in the World than even The Most Interesting Man in the World does, now that’s something!

2. Your attire has increasingly become more dapper than you ever dreamed it could. It’s okay to notice those things :)

1. You adhere to the strict “sugar daddy code” that was set eons before you. No, you cannot talk about the “sugar daddy code”. If you don’t know what the “sugar daddy code” is, ask your mom.

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The sugar daddy lifestyle is not always full of luxuriousness and extravagance.

It’s neither full of prostitutes or call-girls.

A real sugar daddy is not always a “rich sugar daddy”, sometimes he’s humble, hard-working, and has a little bit of extra cash to spend on a special lady friend each month. It’s not far from the conventional dating world, it just has a cute name.

The sugar daddy lifestyle doesn’t always consist of lies which need to be fact-checked. It can be a very honest way of life, since the question of personal finance is already on the table. In-fact, there are no precursors to having the “money” conversation even on the first date.

Here are 10 exciting and enviable traits of the sugar daddy lifestyle:

10. Your sugar baby calls you a “Rich Sugar Daddy”, even if you’re far from it. Hey, it wins you points with her available friends.

9. You have to start adding creative physical traits to your contact list. You can only have so many Nicoles and Laurens before you have to get really specific with each one.

8. Your dance card is always full, even if you don’t want it to be. These girls are hungry and they want you, like, now!

7. The ladies finally understand what a “No String Attached Sugar Daddy” is, no awkward explanation necessary.

6. You are Aloof for the first time in your miserable life, kudos.

5. You get to use the word “no” for once, or twice… You don’t want to double-book sugar babies!

4. Your most annoying personality quirks are now the object of sugar baby’s desires. Don’t question it, just bask in it.

3. You answer more commonly to The Most Interesting Man in the World than even The Most Interesting Man in the World does, now that’s something!

2. Your attire has increasingly become more dapper than you ever dreamed it could. It’s okay to notice those things :)

1. You adhere to the strict “sugar daddy code” that was set eons before you. No, you cannot talk about the “sugar daddy code”. If you don’t know what the “sugar daddy code” is, ask your mom.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1593445351) } [8]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(57) "Tip of the Hat: Decoding a Guy’s First Date Accessories" ["link"]=> string(92) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/06/29/tip-of-the-hat-decoding-a-guys-first-date-accessories/" ["comments"]=> string(100) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/06/29/tip-of-the-hat-decoding-a-guys-first-date-accessories/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 29 Jun 2020 14:52:47 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(14) "Shannon Fisher" } ["category"]=> string(51) "InterestingDating & RelationshipsLove & Sexmarriage" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5301" ["description"]=> string(336) "There’s nothing quite like first date butterflies – you wonder what kind of spark there will be, pray that you don’t spill food on yourself and spend hours meticulously primping. But for all that time spent getting yourself mentally and physically prepared, don’t forget to take a hard look at what your man is wearing […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(3444) "

There’s nothing quite like first date butterflies – you wonder what kind of spark there will be, pray that you don’t spill food on yourself and spend hours meticulously primping. But for all that time spent getting yourself mentally and physically prepared, don’t forget to take a hard look at what your man is wearing on a first date – even his choice of accessories can convey a distinct message about his personality.

As a fashionista and the community manager for Loveawake, the premier online community for singles, I know about the importance of a proper first date wardrobe. I’m here to help you read between the lines – or paisley or plaid – to learn whether he’s second date material or just a fling.

Hats: Obviously there are far too many types of hats to make a sweeping generalization. Though hats are a distinct way for a guy to show his personality, they can sometimes scream for too much attention on a first date. Venues where a hat is OK: outdoor sporting event (baseball cap), speakeasy (fedora), poetry slam (beret), skiing (beanie) or monster truck rally (trucker hat).

Nice watch: Some guys’ idea of a “nice” watch is simply that it ticks and doesn’t have a superhero on it. If your man flashes a classy timepiece, it shows he is traditional and wants to put his best foot forward.

Scarf: In spring and summer: Prissy. You’ll probably have to put your coat down for him to cross a puddle. In winter: Mature. It takes a big man to admit he’s cold.

Sunglasses: He thinks he’s too cool for school. It’s important to look into your date’s eyes when you’re getting to know them, and let’s face it, it’s not like he had to dodge a crowd of paparazzi on his way to meet you. Occasion where sunglasses are OK on a date: You’re outside and squinting uncomfortably to see your love interest.

Cufflinks: Let me just wipe my drool… ah yes, cufflinks – they show ambition. Not a lot of guys own them, even if dress wear requires them. They’re truly an investment piece, and show he cares about his appearance and where he’s going in life.

Umbrella: Meticulous. If he thought to check the weather before your date and made the effort to lug an umbrella with him, he’s clearly a planner – and a keeper! Added bonus: there’s room for two under that umbrella.

Suspenders: He thinks he’s unique. Unless he’s Steve Urkel, suspenders are a guy’s way of showing how “different” and cool he is. He’ll try to sell you a story about how he found these ol’ suspenders at a thrift store in Williamsburg, but trust me, he spent $500 to look that vintage.

Bracelet: Sentimental. Do you know any men who wear bracelets that don’t have some sort of significant emotional meaning? Ask him about it as an icebreaker and get to know what makes him tick.

The bottom line is that you have to give any man points for accessorizing – it’s so much easier to just throw on a shirt and jeans rather than go that extra mile. When a guy puts in the effort, take notice of these non-verbal cues to see if he could be your perfect match.

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There’s nothing quite like first date butterflies – you wonder what kind of spark there will be, pray that you don’t spill food on yourself and spend hours meticulously primping. But for all that time spent getting yourself mentally and physically prepared, don’t forget to take a hard look at what your man is wearing on a first date – even his choice of accessories can convey a distinct message about his personality.

As a fashionista and the community manager for Loveawake, the premier online community for singles, I know about the importance of a proper first date wardrobe. I’m here to help you read between the lines – or paisley or plaid – to learn whether he’s second date material or just a fling.

Hats: Obviously there are far too many types of hats to make a sweeping generalization. Though hats are a distinct way for a guy to show his personality, they can sometimes scream for too much attention on a first date. Venues where a hat is OK: outdoor sporting event (baseball cap), speakeasy (fedora), poetry slam (beret), skiing (beanie) or monster truck rally (trucker hat).

Nice watch: Some guys’ idea of a “nice” watch is simply that it ticks and doesn’t have a superhero on it. If your man flashes a classy timepiece, it shows he is traditional and wants to put his best foot forward.

Scarf: In spring and summer: Prissy. You’ll probably have to put your coat down for him to cross a puddle. In winter: Mature. It takes a big man to admit he’s cold.

Sunglasses: He thinks he’s too cool for school. It’s important to look into your date’s eyes when you’re getting to know them, and let’s face it, it’s not like he had to dodge a crowd of paparazzi on his way to meet you. Occasion where sunglasses are OK on a date: You’re outside and squinting uncomfortably to see your love interest.

Cufflinks: Let me just wipe my drool… ah yes, cufflinks – they show ambition. Not a lot of guys own them, even if dress wear requires them. They’re truly an investment piece, and show he cares about his appearance and where he’s going in life.

Umbrella: Meticulous. If he thought to check the weather before your date and made the effort to lug an umbrella with him, he’s clearly a planner – and a keeper! Added bonus: there’s room for two under that umbrella.

Suspenders: He thinks he’s unique. Unless he’s Steve Urkel, suspenders are a guy’s way of showing how “different” and cool he is. He’ll try to sell you a story about how he found these ol’ suspenders at a thrift store in Williamsburg, but trust me, he spent $500 to look that vintage.

Bracelet: Sentimental. Do you know any men who wear bracelets that don’t have some sort of significant emotional meaning? Ask him about it as an icebreaker and get to know what makes him tick.

The bottom line is that you have to give any man points for accessorizing – it’s so much easier to just throw on a shirt and jeans rather than go that extra mile. When a guy puts in the effort, take notice of these non-verbal cues to see if he could be your perfect match.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1593442367) } [9]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(42) "How Much Should You Spend On A First Date?" ["link"]=> string(80) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/06/29/how-much-should-you-spend-on-a-first-date/" ["comments"]=> string(88) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/06/29/how-much-should-you-spend-on-a-first-date/#respond" ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 29 Jun 2020 14:41:29 +0000" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["category"]=> string(31) "Dating Advicefirst datemoneypay" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=5298" ["description"]=> string(335) "How much should you spend on a first date? Our recommendation will keep your wallet safe while helping you find a great girl. We weighed in on the age-old, controversial topic “Who should pay?” with an earlier article – in short, we think the guy should pay because it gives him more useful information about his date […]" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(4109) "

How much should you spend on a first date? Our recommendation will keep your wallet safe while helping you find a great girl.

We weighed in on the age-old, controversial topic “Who should pay?” with an earlier article – in short, we think the guy should pay because it gives him more useful information about his date than if he chooses not to and saves his him money in the long run. Now, since we’re assuming we guys are paying, we’ll give our perspective on how much money we should spend on the first date.

Also, to be clear, we recommend going on a Time Limited Coffee Date (TLCD) before going on a “proper” first date. On TLCDs, buying yourself and her a drink shouldn’t cost more than $10 US, even less is better. Keep it simple, keep it inexpensive, keep it short.

Two big reasons:

  1. No use investing a lot of time, energy, money and emotion in a stranger who we may never see again. Sitting down over coffee for 45-75 minutes gives both parties tons of information that they’ll use to decide whether or not to send / accept any more date offers.
  2. By keeping TLCDs and dates 1-10 inexpensive, it will anger and drive away gold-diggers + other women with nefarious plans for you bank account. Save the more involved and expensive plans for girls who you’ve put through the screening process

From the first proper date after the TLCD about the 10th or 11th date, we recommend keeping it under $20-$30 a date. This might get a little tricky, as we also recommend including a fun, exciting activity AND a meal while planning dates.

So how do we keep things within budget those first ten dates?

Activities: keep the activities free / cheap. Here’s a slightly less personal list of the activities we recommend for the first ten dates: frisbee, badmitton, ping-pong, billiards, darts, ice skating, arcades / game centers, playing catch, batting cages, putt-putt golf and the driving range. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have any skill in these things – if she’s into you, it’ll be hilarious and fun anyway.

Meals: if the activities are free, then it should be easier to keep the meal portion in the $10-20 for two range. Here’s an extremely personal, subjective list of the kinds of meals I like for those first ten dates: sandwiches (about $10 for two), picnic (goes good with free activities like frisbee, groceries for picnic food can be between $5-20), or ice cream (although it’s not a proper ‘meal’ it still serves the same function on a date, about $5-15 depending on the store).

If she’s generous, she’ll offer to pitch in. Accept and let her from the second date on if she offers, but NEVER assume she will. Always bring enough cash for your date plan for both yourself and the girl. One way to let her pay is this:

You: (Paying for an activity or meal)

Her: Oh! How much?

You: Don’t worry, I got it.

Her: Really?! Thanks!

You: You can buy me a new car next time. (She probably laughs) Or, you can get the next meal. That works too.

Her: Ok!

After the 10th date or so, it’s up to you and your budget on how much you spend on date. If she’s proven over the course of several months that she’s totally into, she has a great core personality that matches with yours, and continues to bring her A-Game to every date, then occasionally taking her out for an expensive dinner or giving her a gift is probably ok. Until then, run a tight ship.

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How much should you spend on a first date? Our recommendation will keep your wallet safe while helping you find a great girl.

We weighed in on the age-old, controversial topic “Who should pay?” with an earlier article – in short, we think the guy should pay because it gives him more useful information about his date than if he chooses not to and saves his him money in the long run. Now, since we’re assuming we guys are paying, we’ll give our perspective on how much money we should spend on the first date.

Also, to be clear, we recommend going on a Time Limited Coffee Date (TLCD) before going on a “proper” first date. On TLCDs, buying yourself and her a drink shouldn’t cost more than $10 US, even less is better. Keep it simple, keep it inexpensive, keep it short.

Two big reasons:

  1. No use investing a lot of time, energy, money and emotion in a stranger who we may never see again. Sitting down over coffee for 45-75 minutes gives both parties tons of information that they’ll use to decide whether or not to send / accept any more date offers.
  2. By keeping TLCDs and dates 1-10 inexpensive, it will anger and drive away gold-diggers + other women with nefarious plans for you bank account. Save the more involved and expensive plans for girls who you’ve put through the screening process

From the first proper date after the TLCD about the 10th or 11th date, we recommend keeping it under $20-$30 a date. This might get a little tricky, as we also recommend including a fun, exciting activity AND a meal while planning dates.

So how do we keep things within budget those first ten dates?

Activities: keep the activities free / cheap. Here’s a slightly less personal list of the activities we recommend for the first ten dates: frisbee, badmitton, ping-pong, billiards, darts, ice skating, arcades / game centers, playing catch, batting cages, putt-putt golf and the driving range. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have any skill in these things – if she’s into you, it’ll be hilarious and fun anyway.

Meals: if the activities are free, then it should be easier to keep the meal portion in the $10-20 for two range. Here’s an extremely personal, subjective list of the kinds of meals I like for those first ten dates: sandwiches (about $10 for two), picnic (goes good with free activities like frisbee, groceries for picnic food can be between $5-20), or ice cream (although it’s not a proper ‘meal’ it still serves the same function on a date, about $5-15 depending on the store).

If she’s generous, she’ll offer to pitch in. Accept and let her from the second date on if she offers, but NEVER assume she will. Always bring enough cash for your date plan for both yourself and the girl. One way to let her pay is this:

You: (Paying for an activity or meal)

Her: Oh! How much?

You: Don’t worry, I got it.

Her: Really?! Thanks!

You: You can buy me a new car next time. (She probably laughs) Or, you can get the next meal. That works too.

Her: Ok!

After the 10th date or so, it’s up to you and your budget on how much you spend on date. If she’s proven over the course of several months that she’s totally into, she has a great core personality that matches with yours, and continues to bring her A-Game to every date, then occasionally taking her out for an expensive dinner or giving her a gift is probably ok. Until then, run a tight ship.

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