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Every guy has their own definition of a sexy woman, for some it’s when a woman wears high heels, other’s enjoy a woman’s voluptuous curves, and others are turned on by a woman’s intellect and demeanor. The list can be endless, every guy has their own “thing” that they see in a woman, and what attracts […]

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Every guy has their own definition of a sexy woman, for some it’s when a woman wears high heels, other’s enjoy a woman’s voluptuous curves, and others are turned on by a woman’s intellect and demeanor. The list can be endless, every guy has their own “thing” that they see in a woman, and what attracts them. Attempting to find every possible combination is a fruitless endeavor. While some universal truths exist, they don’t apply to everyone or every situation. Someone who’s attracted to curvy women, may consider a slender woman sexy for many different reasons. This situation leaves the question unanswered, what is considered a sexy woman?

The Physical

There are many physical traits that make a person sexier than the other. These are the ones we often hear about, great butts, amazing chests, long legs, etc. It’s hard to ignore that certain physical traits garner more attention than others. A woman with a pair of long, athletic legs is often thought of as sexy. It’s hard to ignore what men, in general, find attractive. It often begins with a woman’s physical traits. It’s the first thing we see. The problem is, nature often gives you what you have. If you’re born with great legs, or not so great legs, that isn’t anyones choice.

The Presentation

The women who have great physical traits, and present them well, are often seen as sexy. A woman with a great pair of legs, who often wear baggy jeans, could be considered less sexy than a woman who often wears mini-skirts. Every woman knows what they have to get a guys attention, and how to best present them. Low neck shirts weren’t invented just because it was a fashion trend, there’s a tease, a thought that is considered. There are catches to this equation, while something semi-revealing may be considered sexy, there’s also the question of appropriateness. Wearing a club outfit to work lends a different thought than wearing it at the club. There are ways any women can be considered sexy, without having to also be considered as someone who’s easy.

The Characteristics Of A Woman, Her “Stuff”

There’s a gray area when you discuss sexiness. It isn’t physical traits, or how it’s presented, it’s the characteristics of a woman; her attitude, the things she likes, what interests her. There’s this large gray area of personality, emotional connection, and “stuff” that determines how we view one woman’s sexiness. It’s complex, confusing, and the topic of many books, movies, and magazine articles. This area is the impetus for this post. For instance, I’m attracted to women who are geeks or sports fans; I find those two traits sexy. I also find confidence sexy in some women and discreteness sexy in others. In some women it’s a turn off. There isn’t an exact science to being a sexy woman or not, it’s often a combination.

So why write this post?

Our hope is to discuss the  gray areas of what men find sexy and attractive, and what we find unappealing and unattractive. Often, in today’s society, we focus on how women can be sexier thru weight loss, or plastic surgery, when there should be a real focus on the person. There are two things that make a woman sexy, good physical health, and good personal health. There’s many times when I’ve met physically attractive women, but due to their personality, considered them as horrendous ugly women.

This topic isn’t just for the women, but also men. Often we don’t know what women find sexy or not. It’s hard for us, because men are often lied to, we’re told the taller we are, the more fit we are, or the car we drive determines out sex appeal. That formula isn’t correct at all.

All of this aims to shed some light on the question of, “What is sexy?”

The post What Is A Sexy Woman? appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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The post What Is A Sexy Woman? appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Every guy has their own definition of a sexy woman, for some it’s when a woman wears high heels, other’s enjoy a woman’s voluptuous curves, and others are turned on by a woman’s intellect and demeanor. The list can be endless, every guy has their own “thing” that they see in a woman, and what attracts them. Attempting to find every possible combination is a fruitless endeavor. While some universal truths exist, they don’t apply to everyone or every situation. Someone who’s attracted to curvy women, may consider a slender woman sexy for many different reasons. This situation leaves the question unanswered, what is considered a sexy woman?

The Physical

There are many physical traits that make a person sexier than the other. These are the ones we often hear about, great butts, amazing chests, long legs, etc. It’s hard to ignore that certain physical traits garner more attention than others. A woman with a pair of long, athletic legs is often thought of as sexy. It’s hard to ignore what men, in general, find attractive. It often begins with a woman’s physical traits. It’s the first thing we see. The problem is, nature often gives you what you have. If you’re born with great legs, or not so great legs, that isn’t anyones choice.

The Presentation

The women who have great physical traits, and present them well, are often seen as sexy. A woman with a great pair of legs, who often wear baggy jeans, could be considered less sexy than a woman who often wears mini-skirts. Every woman knows what they have to get a guys attention, and how to best present them. Low neck shirts weren’t invented just because it was a fashion trend, there’s a tease, a thought that is considered. There are catches to this equation, while something semi-revealing may be considered sexy, there’s also the question of appropriateness. Wearing a club outfit to work lends a different thought than wearing it at the club. There are ways any women can be considered sexy, without having to also be considered as someone who’s easy.

The Characteristics Of A Woman, Her “Stuff”

There’s a gray area when you discuss sexiness. It isn’t physical traits, or how it’s presented, it’s the characteristics of a woman; her attitude, the things she likes, what interests her. There’s this large gray area of personality, emotional connection, and “stuff” that determines how we view one woman’s sexiness. It’s complex, confusing, and the topic of many books, movies, and magazine articles. This area is the impetus for this post. For instance, I’m attracted to women who are geeks or sports fans; I find those two traits sexy. I also find confidence sexy in some women and discreteness sexy in others. In some women it’s a turn off. There isn’t an exact science to being a sexy woman or not, it’s often a combination.

So why write this post?

Our hope is to discuss the  gray areas of what men find sexy and attractive, and what we find unappealing and unattractive. Often, in today’s society, we focus on how women can be sexier thru weight loss, or plastic surgery, when there should be a real focus on the person. There are two things that make a woman sexy, good physical health, and good personal health. There’s many times when I’ve met physically attractive women, but due to their personality, considered them as horrendous ugly women.

This topic isn’t just for the women, but also men. Often we don’t know what women find sexy or not. It’s hard for us, because men are often lied to, we’re told the taller we are, the more fit we are, or the car we drive determines out sex appeal. That formula isn’t correct at all.

All of this aims to shed some light on the question of, “What is sexy?”

The post What Is A Sexy Woman? appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Dating and relationships often approached with a “my way or the highway” mentality. Whether it’s an argument or the type of person you’re seeking, most believe their point of view is always  the correct way to view the world. This includes your preference, your wants, and what the other person should have, to determine if […]

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Ever thought about what if you’re not good enough for them? What if your not the type of person they want? What if your highway doesn’t intersect with theirs at all? Now what do you do?

People are wrong, all the time. More often than not, you’re not consistently correct. Everything you think about dating, relationships and everything in between isn’t correct or even successful. When women complain about not finding a good man, I often ask them “How many times have you approached men?”, “What did you do?” and “Where were you looking for these guys?” Guys have the notion that we’re going to find the right girl at the club or bar, but more often than not we’ll find the Right Now Girl. Much of our inherited dating traits and practices aren’t successful, or even the right way to meet someone.

A definition of insanity is, repetitively doing the same thing expecting a different result each time. It’s insane to think that we’re always doing the right thing when it comes to dating. We’re compelled by the success stories: the chances that someone met their perfect person at a bar; the time that the check list of traits a person was seeking was found on an online dating website; the time the perfect person walked up to them and asked them for a date. It’s considered “settling” when we move away from the dating practices that are successful, but more often than not you’re going to find the right person than another mistake.

Dating requires a sense humility, something we all struggle with. Often we just need to come down from our ivory towers and face reality.

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The post You’re Not Always Right appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Dating and relationships often approached with a “my way or the highway” mentality. Whether it’s an argument or the type of person you’re seeking, most believe their point of view is always  the correct way to view the world. This includes your preference, your wants, and what the other person should have, to determine if they “worthy” to date you.

Ever thought about what if you’re not good enough for them? What if your not the type of person they want? What if your highway doesn’t intersect with theirs at all? Now what do you do?

People are wrong, all the time. More often than not, you’re not consistently correct. Everything you think about dating, relationships and everything in between isn’t correct or even successful. When women complain about not finding a good man, I often ask them “How many times have you approached men?”, “What did you do?” and “Where were you looking for these guys?” Guys have the notion that we’re going to find the right girl at the club or bar, but more often than not we’ll find the Right Now Girl. Much of our inherited dating traits and practices aren’t successful, or even the right way to meet someone.

A definition of insanity is, repetitively doing the same thing expecting a different result each time. It’s insane to think that we’re always doing the right thing when it comes to dating. We’re compelled by the success stories: the chances that someone met their perfect person at a bar; the time that the check list of traits a person was seeking was found on an online dating website; the time the perfect person walked up to them and asked them for a date. It’s considered “settling” when we move away from the dating practices that are successful, but more often than not you’re going to find the right person than another mistake.

Dating requires a sense humility, something we all struggle with. Often we just need to come down from our ivory towers and face reality.

The post You’re Not Always Right appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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It’s a classic tale: You’ve been together for awhile, tried to test the waters on his feelings about marriage and are left wondering if he’ll ever pop the question. Chances are if you are asking yourself this, you already know the answer. It may be time to move on, but before you pack your bags, […]

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It’s a classic tale: You’ve been together for awhile, tried to test the waters on his feelings about marriage and are left wondering if he’ll ever pop the question. Chances are if you are asking yourself this, you already know the answer. It may be time to move on, but before you pack your bags, call it quits and create an online dating profile, check out these telltale signs he’s not ready for marriage.

1. You Haven’t Met His Family

I know what you are thinking: His family lives far away or they don’t have a close relationship — so you simply haven’t had an opportunity to meet them. If a guy wants to propose you, he’ll find a way for you to meet his family. Whether his family is 5,000 miles away or one mile away, when he finds the woman he is ready to settle down with, she will meet his family.

2. He Still Has Guys Night Out

When men are ready to settle down, they begin to feel out of place and bored with the singles scene. We don’t begrudge any man a guys night out; women need them too. But if he is still going out to the bars and clubs with his single guy friends every Friday night, being a couple is not a priority for him.

3. He is Financially Unstable

Men still need to feel like they are the provider in a relationship, so if your man still struggles to pay his bills and is living paycheck to paycheck, it is very unlikely that he is ready to take on a wife and ultimately family. Even if you are financially fit — which I am sure you are — it is part of the male wiring. And honestly, do you really want a guy that can’t pay his bills or doesn’t know how he is going to pay his rent? Love can only take you so far; then reality of life sets in, making this an impossible situation.

4. He Makes “Single” Purchases

If your man just bought a shiny new sports car or put a down-payment down on his bachelor pad, he’s definitely not thinking about marriage. Even if he solicits your input on the car or home of his dreams — it is his, not ours. A guy who is ready to settle down is thinking ahead and wouldn’t make such a large purchase if there were a wein the equation.

5. He Says So

This seems so obvious, but is often overlooked. You ask, and if he dodges the topic or tells you he’s not the marrying kind, it is definitely time to move on. He won’t change his mind — but he will keep you in the picture as long as possible. If he says you are the one for him but he’s not ready to get married yet, proceed with caution; that could be OK as long as he’s not showing any of the other signs.

The bottom line is, sometimes it does take men a bit longer to realize they are ready to marry; but eventually, most do want to settle down when they find the right person. If you’ve been dating for awhile and he displays any of these behaviors, he is not the one for you and likely never will be. If you like things the way they are, keep it going. If you are ready to settle down, then stop wasting your time: You can only find the man you are truly meant to be with if you are available for him to find you.

The post 5 Signs He’s Not Ready To Marry …You appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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It’s a classic tale: You’ve been together for awhile, tried to test the waters on his feelings about marriage and are left wondering if he’ll ever pop the question. Chances are if you are asking yourself this, you already know the answer. It may be time to move on, but before you pack your bags, […]

The post 5 Signs He’s Not Ready To Marry …You appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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It’s a classic tale: You’ve been together for awhile, tried to test the waters on his feelings about marriage and are left wondering if he’ll ever pop the question. Chances are if you are asking yourself this, you already know the answer. It may be time to move on, but before you pack your bags, call it quits and create an online dating profile, check out these telltale signs he’s not ready for marriage.

1. You Haven’t Met His Family

I know what you are thinking: His family lives far away or they don’t have a close relationship — so you simply haven’t had an opportunity to meet them. If a guy wants to propose you, he’ll find a way for you to meet his family. Whether his family is 5,000 miles away or one mile away, when he finds the woman he is ready to settle down with, she will meet his family.

2. He Still Has Guys Night Out

When men are ready to settle down, they begin to feel out of place and bored with the singles scene. We don’t begrudge any man a guys night out; women need them too. But if he is still going out to the bars and clubs with his single guy friends every Friday night, being a couple is not a priority for him.

3. He is Financially Unstable

Men still need to feel like they are the provider in a relationship, so if your man still struggles to pay his bills and is living paycheck to paycheck, it is very unlikely that he is ready to take on a wife and ultimately family. Even if you are financially fit — which I am sure you are — it is part of the male wiring. And honestly, do you really want a guy that can’t pay his bills or doesn’t know how he is going to pay his rent? Love can only take you so far; then reality of life sets in, making this an impossible situation.

4. He Makes “Single” Purchases

If your man just bought a shiny new sports car or put a down-payment down on his bachelor pad, he’s definitely not thinking about marriage. Even if he solicits your input on the car or home of his dreams — it is his, not ours. A guy who is ready to settle down is thinking ahead and wouldn’t make such a large purchase if there were a wein the equation.

5. He Says So

This seems so obvious, but is often overlooked. You ask, and if he dodges the topic or tells you he’s not the marrying kind, it is definitely time to move on. He won’t change his mind — but he will keep you in the picture as long as possible. If he says you are the one for him but he’s not ready to get married yet, proceed with caution; that could be OK as long as he’s not showing any of the other signs.

The bottom line is, sometimes it does take men a bit longer to realize they are ready to marry; but eventually, most do want to settle down when they find the right person. If you’ve been dating for awhile and he displays any of these behaviors, he is not the one for you and likely never will be. If you like things the way they are, keep it going. If you are ready to settle down, then stop wasting your time: You can only find the man you are truly meant to be with if you are available for him to find you.

The post 5 Signs He’s Not Ready To Marry …You appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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When you suspect your girlfriend or boyfriend is cheating, the next question that arises is to snoop or not to snoop? For some snooping is morally abhorrent; for others like Danine Manette, snooping is a must. Danine Manette is a criminal investigator and an unabashed snoop, but she’s the first to tell you that it has […]

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When you suspect your girlfriend or boyfriend is cheating, the next question that arises is to snoop or not to snoop? For some snooping is morally abhorrent; for others like Danine Manette, snooping is a must.

Danine Manette is a criminal investigator and an unabashed snoop, but she’s the first to tell you that it has nothing to do with her job. She simply likes being on top of things. Danine routinely checks up on her kids’ online activities and monitors their cell-phone logs and browsing history, and takes an occasional peek into their backpacks. But for Danine, that’s good parenting. Snooping is a little different with her husband.

Let’s make this clear: Danine believes within every relationship there is a certain expectation of privacy. “I don’t think you should enter into a relationship doing the occasional snoop. If you have to do that, there is obviously a problem,” says Danine. But .. and this a big but … Danine argues, once a partner cheats, snooping is fair game. “The truth of the matter is I’ve been the victim of infidelity in the past and don’t EVER want to be blindsided like that again. Does that give me a license to snoop henceforth and forever more? Sure it does. In my opinion, once someone betrays trust in a relationship, they forfeit their right to a blanket expectation of privacy. ”

How to Catch a Cheater Tip No. 1: Signs You Should be Snooping

The aftermath of cheating isn’t they only reason you should snoop. There are other red flags. So, how do you know if you should be snooping? Look for signs that he is cheating or that something else is amiss. If he is arriving home late or large sums of money are disappearing with no explanation, Danine argues that those warning signs merit snooping. But ultimately, Danine advises, knowing when to snoop is all about knowing your partner. “Look for strange and unusual behavior in your partner and other warning signs. For example, if there are creditors calling your house, but as far as you know you have no money problems …” which, argues Danine, is a good reason to snoop.

How to Catch a Cheater Tip No. 2: Best Places to Snoop

Knowing where to snoop depends on two things: What you suspect is going on and your partner’s behavior. If your boyfriend is running out of the room every time he takes a phone call, Danine advises checking cell-phone records. If you wake up at 2 a.m. and your boyfriend is still on the computer, install a spyware to monitor his online activities. If you think this person has been in contact with someone from his past, you may want to start looking through his social networking profile. “What is the area of the rift?” asks Danine. “Find that out and focus your efforts there.”

How to Catch a Cheater Tip No. 3: What to Do if You’ve Been Snooped

But what if you are the snooped and not the snooper? Danine argues that if you’ve violated the trust of the relationship, then you should expect to be snooped. “If you’ve cheated you should be handing over your passwords and security codes for all your personal information, so your spouse can check up on you,” Danine says. However, if you’ve done nothing and you come home to find your husband rifling through your sock drawer, Danine cautions against getting defensive. “Ask him ‘What are you looking for?’ or ‘Can I help you find something?’ If your partner is snooping on you, it’s because they feel insecure about your relationship. Sit them down and ask them how you can help them overcome that insecurity.” In sum, start a dialogue — not a fight.

What do you think? Do you think snooping is ever justified?

The post How to Catch a Cheater: To Snoop or Not to Snoop? appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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The post How to Catch a Cheater: To Snoop or Not to Snoop? appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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When you suspect your girlfriend or boyfriend is cheating, the next question that arises is to snoop or not to snoop? For some snooping is morally abhorrent; for others like Danine Manette, snooping is a must.

Danine Manette is a criminal investigator and an unabashed snoop, but she’s the first to tell you that it has nothing to do with her job. She simply likes being on top of things. Danine routinely checks up on her kids’ online activities and monitors their cell-phone logs and browsing history, and takes an occasional peek into their backpacks. But for Danine, that’s good parenting. Snooping is a little different with her husband.

Let’s make this clear: Danine believes within every relationship there is a certain expectation of privacy. “I don’t think you should enter into a relationship doing the occasional snoop. If you have to do that, there is obviously a problem,” says Danine. But .. and this a big but … Danine argues, once a partner cheats, snooping is fair game. “The truth of the matter is I’ve been the victim of infidelity in the past and don’t EVER want to be blindsided like that again. Does that give me a license to snoop henceforth and forever more? Sure it does. In my opinion, once someone betrays trust in a relationship, they forfeit their right to a blanket expectation of privacy. ”

How to Catch a Cheater Tip No. 1: Signs You Should be Snooping

The aftermath of cheating isn’t they only reason you should snoop. There are other red flags. So, how do you know if you should be snooping? Look for signs that he is cheating or that something else is amiss. If he is arriving home late or large sums of money are disappearing with no explanation, Danine argues that those warning signs merit snooping. But ultimately, Danine advises, knowing when to snoop is all about knowing your partner. “Look for strange and unusual behavior in your partner and other warning signs. For example, if there are creditors calling your house, but as far as you know you have no money problems …” which, argues Danine, is a good reason to snoop.

How to Catch a Cheater Tip No. 2: Best Places to Snoop

Knowing where to snoop depends on two things: What you suspect is going on and your partner’s behavior. If your boyfriend is running out of the room every time he takes a phone call, Danine advises checking cell-phone records. If you wake up at 2 a.m. and your boyfriend is still on the computer, install a spyware to monitor his online activities. If you think this person has been in contact with someone from his past, you may want to start looking through his social networking profile. “What is the area of the rift?” asks Danine. “Find that out and focus your efforts there.”

How to Catch a Cheater Tip No. 3: What to Do if You’ve Been Snooped

But what if you are the snooped and not the snooper? Danine argues that if you’ve violated the trust of the relationship, then you should expect to be snooped. “If you’ve cheated you should be handing over your passwords and security codes for all your personal information, so your spouse can check up on you,” Danine says. However, if you’ve done nothing and you come home to find your husband rifling through your sock drawer, Danine cautions against getting defensive. “Ask him ‘What are you looking for?’ or ‘Can I help you find something?’ If your partner is snooping on you, it’s because they feel insecure about your relationship. Sit them down and ask them how you can help them overcome that insecurity.” In sum, start a dialogue — not a fight.

What do you think? Do you think snooping is ever justified?

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Call it women’s intuition. A sixth sense. “Just a feeling” that there’s some action going on in your guy’s love life that has absolutely nothing to do with you. If he’s sneaking around like Tiger Woods, he may think he’s slick, but chances are he’s dropping clues like loose change. These 5 bad-boy behaviors could […]

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Call it women’s intuition. A sixth sense. “Just a feeling” that there’s some action going on in your guy’s love life that has absolutely nothing to do with you. If he’s sneaking around like Tiger Woods, he may think he’s slick, but chances are he’s dropping clues like loose change. These 5 bad-boy behaviors could be flashing-red warning signs:

1. He starts acting overprotective of his cell phone or computer.

This is one classic sign of a cheating heart that you shouldn’t ignore. When simple phone calls or text messages put him on edge before he even picks up the phone, you know there’s something fishy going on. If there were nothing to hide, he (and you) would have no reason to worry. And when he erases voice mail messages, hastily shuts down his laptop when you walk in the room or has lots of hushed phone calls, you’ve got a reason to worry.

2. He starts picking you apart.

All of a sudden, quirks that he used to find charming (the way you sneeze, your tendency to snort when you laugh, your habit of chewing on the cap of your pen when you’re deep in thought…) are targets for his ire. He can’t resist making snarky or outright critical remarks toward you about things that really shouldn’t matter. But don’t try to reason with him. He’s knocking you off the pedestal for one reason or another. It could be to demonize you so it’s easier for him to “justify” his Tiger Woods-style transgressions.

3. He makes cruel jokes that ring true.

He may be joking, but if it stings, don’t turn the other cheek. I once dated a guy – for an embarrassingly LONG time – who constantly teased about his love of Asian women. And what’s worse is that he did it in public – at dinner parties, barbecues, weddings, you name it! This was offensive in 1,001 ways, not the least of which was that most of our female friends were Asian and thought he was a jerk for objectifying and stereotyping them. And I, as you might have guessed by now, am not Asian. Not even close. After putting up with it for more years than I care to admit, I threw down the gauntlet: If he wanted to stay in a relationship with me, he had to ditch the jokes. So, he stopped. Six months later, he left me for a Korean woman (who dumped him a few months later, but that’s a whole ‘nother story). My guess is she didn’t like his jokes, either.

4. He starts taking much better care of himself

without any prompting from you. Has Mr. Sleep Till Noon all of a sudden morphed into Mr. 5 a.m. Boot Camp, cut out carbs, and tossed his college tees and generic jeans for the men’s window-display outfit at Banana Republic? Has he started using hair gel, after a lifetime of wash-‘n-go? Has his overall hygiene taken a sharp turn for the better – but along with that, he’s started showering twice a day (including right after he gets home from a late night at the office) and paying particular attention to trimming his nose hairs and unibrow? Watch out: He may be primping for someone else (and trying to hide the evidence after he gets home). Note: The adoption of any kind of mancessory, however, warrants no worry. That move calls for professional help, not suspicion.

5. He talks incessantly about a female coworker or friend.

“Oh, Kate is so good at this and that, so smart, so pretty, so…I mean, you’d like her, really. That’s all I meant.” Sure, men and women can be friends, but don’t kid yourself by thinking a little Harry Met Sally action couldn’t happen to your guy. Anyone can cross the line. It’s not a given, but sometimes all it takes is a few drinks, a well-timed compliment or one too many long lunches, and boom – the boundaries come crashing down. None of us wants to admit it, but we all know it’s true.

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Call it women’s intuition. A sixth sense. “Just a feeling” that there’s some action going on in your guy’s love life that has absolutely nothing to do with you. If he’s sneaking around like Tiger Woods, he may think he’s slick, but chances are he’s dropping clues like loose change. These 5 bad-boy behaviors could […]

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Call it women’s intuition. A sixth sense. “Just a feeling” that there’s some action going on in your guy’s love life that has absolutely nothing to do with you. If he’s sneaking around like Tiger Woods, he may think he’s slick, but chances are he’s dropping clues like loose change. These 5 bad-boy behaviors could be flashing-red warning signs:

1. He starts acting overprotective of his cell phone or computer.

This is one classic sign of a cheating heart that you shouldn’t ignore. When simple phone calls or text messages put him on edge before he even picks up the phone, you know there’s something fishy going on. If there were nothing to hide, he (and you) would have no reason to worry. And when he erases voice mail messages, hastily shuts down his laptop when you walk in the room or has lots of hushed phone calls, you’ve got a reason to worry.

2. He starts picking you apart.

All of a sudden, quirks that he used to find charming (the way you sneeze, your tendency to snort when you laugh, your habit of chewing on the cap of your pen when you’re deep in thought…) are targets for his ire. He can’t resist making snarky or outright critical remarks toward you about things that really shouldn’t matter. But don’t try to reason with him. He’s knocking you off the pedestal for one reason or another. It could be to demonize you so it’s easier for him to “justify” his Tiger Woods-style transgressions.

3. He makes cruel jokes that ring true.

He may be joking, but if it stings, don’t turn the other cheek. I once dated a guy – for an embarrassingly LONG time – who constantly teased about his love of Asian women. And what’s worse is that he did it in public – at dinner parties, barbecues, weddings, you name it! This was offensive in 1,001 ways, not the least of which was that most of our female friends were Asian and thought he was a jerk for objectifying and stereotyping them. And I, as you might have guessed by now, am not Asian. Not even close. After putting up with it for more years than I care to admit, I threw down the gauntlet: If he wanted to stay in a relationship with me, he had to ditch the jokes. So, he stopped. Six months later, he left me for a Korean woman (who dumped him a few months later, but that’s a whole ‘nother story). My guess is she didn’t like his jokes, either.

4. He starts taking much better care of himself

without any prompting from you. Has Mr. Sleep Till Noon all of a sudden morphed into Mr. 5 a.m. Boot Camp, cut out carbs, and tossed his college tees and generic jeans for the men’s window-display outfit at Banana Republic? Has he started using hair gel, after a lifetime of wash-‘n-go? Has his overall hygiene taken a sharp turn for the better – but along with that, he’s started showering twice a day (including right after he gets home from a late night at the office) and paying particular attention to trimming his nose hairs and unibrow? Watch out: He may be primping for someone else (and trying to hide the evidence after he gets home). Note: The adoption of any kind of mancessory, however, warrants no worry. That move calls for professional help, not suspicion.

5. He talks incessantly about a female coworker or friend.

“Oh, Kate is so good at this and that, so smart, so pretty, so…I mean, you’d like her, really. That’s all I meant.” Sure, men and women can be friends, but don’t kid yourself by thinking a little Harry Met Sally action couldn’t happen to your guy. Anyone can cross the line. It’s not a given, but sometimes all it takes is a few drinks, a well-timed compliment or one too many long lunches, and boom – the boundaries come crashing down. None of us wants to admit it, but we all know it’s true.

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Rebounding to an ex-boyfriend says a lot about a woman. That can be good or bad–depending upon the reasons for the original break-up. If, for example, the guy (a) played around on you when you were together, (b) neglected you and your children (c) used you as his meal ticket, then the smartest thing you […]

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Rebounding to an ex-boyfriend says a lot about a woman. That can be good or bad–depending upon the reasons for the original break-up.

If, for example, the guy (a) played around on you when you were together, (b) neglected you and your children (c) used you as his meal ticket, then the smartest thing you ever did was to find the exit door.

And the stupidest thing you can do is allow him back into your life, now or ever.

(Brit: does any of this sound familiar? I’m not being too subtle here…)

Need a few other reasons to steer clear?

Okay, here are 5 other reasons you’d be a fool to take him back:
  1. He spends more time with his guy pals than with you.
  2. He feels he was forced into the commitment–and shows it with blame games and by going A.W.O.L.
  3. He’d rather work long hours than be home with you.
  4. He admits it: he’ll always be more loyal to another woman – be that an ex, an old flame, or his mom.
  5. He shows no interest at all in sex with you. (Well, at least Britney can cross this item off her list!)

And yet, you’re willing to turn the other cheek, to let bygones be bygones?

Silly, silly girl.

Based on the criteria above, you’ve got to face up to at this very important issue:

For whatever reason, you don’t feel worthy of a loving, committed relationship.

Is there a right reason to rebound? Yes. Here’s when you should run back into his arms:

  1. He is the right man, and this is the right time to be with him. In relationships especially, timing is everything. If fate dictates that you are both available, attracted to each other, and ready to take your relationship to the next level, it’s certainly worth giving the relationship another chance.
  2. You’ve come to your senses. He treated you well when you were together-and you didn’t appreciate it at the time. Ready to settle down? Start by looking him up. In his mind, you may have been “the one that got away.”
  3. He’s finally grown into the man you knew he could be. Again, timing if everything. If new life experiences have given him the depth of maturity that make him a better person, reward him with your friendship and your love.

Remember, relationships must continually evolve in order to survive–and to succeed.

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Rebounding to an ex-boyfriend says a lot about a woman. That can be good or bad–depending upon the reasons for the original break-up. If, for example, the guy (a) played around on you when you were together, (b) neglected you and your children (c) used you as his meal ticket, then the smartest thing you […]

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Rebounding to an ex-boyfriend says a lot about a woman. That can be good or bad–depending upon the reasons for the original break-up.

If, for example, the guy (a) played around on you when you were together, (b) neglected you and your children (c) used you as his meal ticket, then the smartest thing you ever did was to find the exit door.

And the stupidest thing you can do is allow him back into your life, now or ever.

(Brit: does any of this sound familiar? I’m not being too subtle here…)

Need a few other reasons to steer clear?

Okay, here are 5 other reasons you’d be a fool to take him back:
  1. He spends more time with his guy pals than with you.
  2. He feels he was forced into the commitment–and shows it with blame games and by going A.W.O.L.
  3. He’d rather work long hours than be home with you.
  4. He admits it: he’ll always be more loyal to another woman – be that an ex, an old flame, or his mom.
  5. He shows no interest at all in sex with you. (Well, at least Britney can cross this item off her list!)

And yet, you’re willing to turn the other cheek, to let bygones be bygones?

Silly, silly girl.

Based on the criteria above, you’ve got to face up to at this very important issue:

For whatever reason, you don’t feel worthy of a loving, committed relationship.

Is there a right reason to rebound? Yes. Here’s when you should run back into his arms:

  1. He is the right man, and this is the right time to be with him. In relationships especially, timing is everything. If fate dictates that you are both available, attracted to each other, and ready to take your relationship to the next level, it’s certainly worth giving the relationship another chance.
  2. You’ve come to your senses. He treated you well when you were together-and you didn’t appreciate it at the time. Ready to settle down? Start by looking him up. In his mind, you may have been “the one that got away.”
  3. He’s finally grown into the man you knew he could be. Again, timing if everything. If new life experiences have given him the depth of maturity that make him a better person, reward him with your friendship and your love.

Remember, relationships must continually evolve in order to survive–and to succeed.

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In general, keeping secrets from your mate can come back to bite you. Just ask Tiger Woods. But there are exceptions to this rule. Here are some secrets worth keeping in a relationship 1. The sacrifices you’ve made. You skipped dinner with friends to attend your mate’s office party. You sold your golf clubs to afford your honey’s […]

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In general, keeping secrets from your mate can come back to bite you. Just ask Tiger Woods. But there are exceptions to this rule. Here are some secrets worth keeping in a relationship

1. The sacrifices you’ve made.

You skipped dinner with friends to attend your mate’s office party. You sold your golf clubs to afford your honey’s birthday gift. Don’t ruin your good deed by acting like a martyr.

2. Your partner makes the bed wrong.

Or loads the dishwasher wrong. Or washes the cars wrong. Or whatever. Unless you like doing all the housework yourself, just be thankful there’s someone to share the load.

3. You hate the gift.

My husband recently surprised me with a pair of new shoes. They weren’t what I would have picked out, but I decided to keep quiet and wore them to work. My co-workers kept complimenting the shoes, and I realized they were onto something. I can’t tell you how many times this has happened when my husband buys me clothing. It takes me awhile to warm up to the items because they’re not necessarily my style. But he loves the way I look in them, and isn’t that what matters? Besides, complain about a gift and there’ll be no more where that came from.

4. You can’t stand your mate’s mother/best friend/favorite sweatshirt.

Particularly in new relationships, tread lightly. If you issue an ultimatum, you’ll likely be the one who gets kicked to the curb.

5. How often you get hit on.

Telling your beloved about every compliment will only make him or her jealous and lead to low self-esteem. As long as you’re not returning the advances, keep that info to yourself. Now, if you’re tempted to stray from the relationship, that’s another story. You definitely should divulge these feelings to your partner before the fantasy becomes reality.

6. Your clothes are uncomfortable.

A guy gives his jacket to his girlfriend when it’s cold out; of course, he’s cold, too. A woman wears sky-high heels on a date; of course her feet hurt. But don’t go ruining the moment by complaining about how uncomfortable you are. Sometimes it’s best to suffer in silence.

7. The details of your romantic history.

Go through a rundown of exes, but keep the sordid details to yourself.

8. You’re bored.

There are times in a relationship when you will be dragged to your mate’s favorite activity more times than you’d like. You will watch TV shows you hate. You’ll eat at restaurants you hate. But you do these things because you love your partner. If the relationship is healthy and balanced, then your sweetie will return the favor for you. So take one for the team, try to get into it and you may even find yourself enjoying, say, Star Trek conventions.

9. I told you so.

Say it in your head all day long, but resist the urge to speak these words aloud. You yourself will be wrong one day, and you won’t want your beloved throwing it in your face.

10. You’re thinking about sex.

Chances are, so is your mate. So go ahead. Stop just thinking about it, and make the first move.

Readers, what other secrets are better left unspoken?

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In general, keeping secrets from your mate can come back to bite you. Just ask Tiger Woods. But there are exceptions to this rule. Here are some secrets worth keeping in a relationship 1. The sacrifices you’ve made. You skipped dinner with friends to attend your mate’s office party. You sold your golf clubs to afford your honey’s […]

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In general, keeping secrets from your mate can come back to bite you. Just ask Tiger Woods. But there are exceptions to this rule. Here are some secrets worth keeping in a relationship

1. The sacrifices you’ve made.

You skipped dinner with friends to attend your mate’s office party. You sold your golf clubs to afford your honey’s birthday gift. Don’t ruin your good deed by acting like a martyr.

2. Your partner makes the bed wrong.

Or loads the dishwasher wrong. Or washes the cars wrong. Or whatever. Unless you like doing all the housework yourself, just be thankful there’s someone to share the load.

3. You hate the gift.

My husband recently surprised me with a pair of new shoes. They weren’t what I would have picked out, but I decided to keep quiet and wore them to work. My co-workers kept complimenting the shoes, and I realized they were onto something. I can’t tell you how many times this has happened when my husband buys me clothing. It takes me awhile to warm up to the items because they’re not necessarily my style. But he loves the way I look in them, and isn’t that what matters? Besides, complain about a gift and there’ll be no more where that came from.

4. You can’t stand your mate’s mother/best friend/favorite sweatshirt.

Particularly in new relationships, tread lightly. If you issue an ultimatum, you’ll likely be the one who gets kicked to the curb.

5. How often you get hit on.

Telling your beloved about every compliment will only make him or her jealous and lead to low self-esteem. As long as you’re not returning the advances, keep that info to yourself. Now, if you’re tempted to stray from the relationship, that’s another story. You definitely should divulge these feelings to your partner before the fantasy becomes reality.

6. Your clothes are uncomfortable.

A guy gives his jacket to his girlfriend when it’s cold out; of course, he’s cold, too. A woman wears sky-high heels on a date; of course her feet hurt. But don’t go ruining the moment by complaining about how uncomfortable you are. Sometimes it’s best to suffer in silence.

7. The details of your romantic history.

Go through a rundown of exes, but keep the sordid details to yourself.

8. You’re bored.

There are times in a relationship when you will be dragged to your mate’s favorite activity more times than you’d like. You will watch TV shows you hate. You’ll eat at restaurants you hate. But you do these things because you love your partner. If the relationship is healthy and balanced, then your sweetie will return the favor for you. So take one for the team, try to get into it and you may even find yourself enjoying, say, Star Trek conventions.

9. I told you so.

Say it in your head all day long, but resist the urge to speak these words aloud. You yourself will be wrong one day, and you won’t want your beloved throwing it in your face.

10. You’re thinking about sex.

Chances are, so is your mate. So go ahead. Stop just thinking about it, and make the first move.

Readers, what other secrets are better left unspoken?

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Welcome to our first installment of Loveawake Personal’s Love Confessions. Below are our 5 favorite confessions from the past. If you’ve got a juicy or funny story you’d like to share, please do. Write it in the comments below. We’ll pick our favorite to post next week. Polished Toenails – Todd, 43 I am a happily married […]

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Welcome to our first installment of Loveawake Personal’s Love Confessions. Below are our 5 favorite confessions from the past. If you’ve got a juicy or funny story you’d like to share, please do. Write it in the comments below. We’ll pick our favorite to post next week.

Polished Toenails – Todd, 43

I am a happily married man with three sons, and into the usual guy-things like sports, cars, and hunting. And, I like to enjoy a relaxing pedicure now and then, complete with polish! I really don’t consider it gay or cross dressing because after I tried it the first time (on a suggestion from the nail tech), my wife really liked it! I wear black, brown, gray, silver, and even blue colors. In my opinion, more men should really try this. There is nothing remotely gay about it; it’s actually quite enjoyable!

Secret Email – Cindy, 36

My boyfriend of eight months has an adult profile on an adult dating site set up. He doesn’t know that I know about it. I have been checking his e-mail and deleted any e-mails from it. Should I feel guilty? I mean, we haven’t had sex in three months now! I say heck no!

Being Girly – Fernando, 59

I am a straight male who loves getting dressed as a women and then going to the mall. I routinely try on dresses at any of the major department stores. Sometimes, I have trouble zipping a dress and have to buzz the sales lady, who gladly comes to zip me up. Sometimes if the size is wrong, she offers to find me the right size and returns it for me to try on.

Nothing Untoward – Emily, 36

I go to a male massage therapist and have told him to forget the modesty sheet. I would never tell my husband this even though nothing untoward happens.

In Love with Another – Sally, 24

I’m married and have been married for three years now. I also have a baby boy with my husband. The thing is that I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend that I dated in high school. He is married now and has a family of his own. I just don’t know when I will completely get over him.

Now It’s YOUR Turn to Confess… Got your own dirty little secret you’re just busting to share? Here’s your chance to spill without getting caught. Go ahead, we know you want to! Just add your story to the comments below. All we ask is that you keep it brief and keep it clean (as possible).

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Welcome to our first installment of Loveawake Personal’s Love Confessions. Below are our 5 favorite confessions from the past. If you’ve got a juicy or funny story you’d like to share, please do. Write it in the comments below. We’ll pick our favorite to post next week. Polished Toenails – Todd, 43 I am a happily married […]

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Welcome to our first installment of Loveawake Personal’s Love Confessions. Below are our 5 favorite confessions from the past. If you’ve got a juicy or funny story you’d like to share, please do. Write it in the comments below. We’ll pick our favorite to post next week.

Polished Toenails – Todd, 43

I am a happily married man with three sons, and into the usual guy-things like sports, cars, and hunting. And, I like to enjoy a relaxing pedicure now and then, complete with polish! I really don’t consider it gay or cross dressing because after I tried it the first time (on a suggestion from the nail tech), my wife really liked it! I wear black, brown, gray, silver, and even blue colors. In my opinion, more men should really try this. There is nothing remotely gay about it; it’s actually quite enjoyable!

Secret Email – Cindy, 36

My boyfriend of eight months has an adult profile on an adult dating site set up. He doesn’t know that I know about it. I have been checking his e-mail and deleted any e-mails from it. Should I feel guilty? I mean, we haven’t had sex in three months now! I say heck no!

Being Girly – Fernando, 59

I am a straight male who loves getting dressed as a women and then going to the mall. I routinely try on dresses at any of the major department stores. Sometimes, I have trouble zipping a dress and have to buzz the sales lady, who gladly comes to zip me up. Sometimes if the size is wrong, she offers to find me the right size and returns it for me to try on.

Nothing Untoward – Emily, 36

I go to a male massage therapist and have told him to forget the modesty sheet. I would never tell my husband this even though nothing untoward happens.

In Love with Another – Sally, 24

I’m married and have been married for three years now. I also have a baby boy with my husband. The thing is that I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend that I dated in high school. He is married now and has a family of his own. I just don’t know when I will completely get over him.

Now It’s YOUR Turn to Confess… Got your own dirty little secret you’re just busting to share? Here’s your chance to spill without getting caught. Go ahead, we know you want to! Just add your story to the comments below. All we ask is that you keep it brief and keep it clean (as possible).

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In the Dark Ages, before the Internet, it used to be that if you wanted to meet people to date, you would try the local bar or club. If that didn’t appeal to you, you could try a personals ad in a newspaper. Finding potential mates in a drinking establishment speaks for itself, and may […]

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In the Dark Ages, before the Internet, it used to be that if you wanted to meet people to date, you would try the local bar or club. If that didn’t appeal to you, you could try a personals ad in a newspaper. Finding potential mates in a drinking establishment speaks for itself, and may partly account for the increasing divorce rate in the last part of the last century. A personals ad was a different kind of animal. It was a costly proposition, since newspapers liked to charge per letter, and sometimes these ads were tied to a service that had you pay per minute to pick up voicemails. It was the genesis of abbreviations such as “SDF looking for LTR.” Yes, it was that primitive. The cost alone made you sharpen that pencil to turn out an ad that not only reflected the true you in the fewest words possible, but also filter out those you really didn’t want to meet.

We have a proliferation of online dating sites, all with profile pages. Some people think they can be casual with regards to what they put in their dating profiles. Wrong. If you are serious about attracting a mate – or just a date – you should craft these things as carefully as you would a resume for a potential employer. Let’s take a look at some common pitfalls and what you can do to avoid them.

Screen names

Some sites have you set up a screen name. Unlike chat rooms, where you are anonymous for as long as you like, your screen name is associated with your picture. Choosing the wrong name can have unfortunate consequences. Try for neutral rather than clever, since you might not be as clever as you think. Names like HarveyWallBanger, Magic Hands and The Tongue not only fail to impress but also set up the impression that you are looking for just one thing. Maybe you are, but do you want to be that obvious?

Pictures

Again, the theme is to set up the best impression you can. Pictures of you shirtless, in your bathing suit – or worse yet, nearly naked – may not impress people as much as you think. Keep your toys out of the pic as well. Pictures of you next to your car, on your motorcycle or in your boat give the impression that your toy is the most important thing in your life. This is hardly the message you want to send out, is it? Likewise for pics that include other people in your life. Keep your best buddy, your child, your coworkers or someone of the opposite sex out of the picture unless you want to send the message that your potential date is going to be playing second fiddle to other people in your life. And don’t use a picture that obviously clips out a person that shared a picture frame with you. It just makes people wonder if they will receive the same treatment from you. Use something current, not your prom picture from ten years ago. People want to see what you look like now. Last but not least, don’t even think of not putting up a picture. It just makes people wonder what you are trying to hide.

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Some sites ask you questions, others leave it up to you. Some are a combination of both. Unless you are clever at turning a phrase, just keep it simple. To avoid are things typical of your gender. Most men have an interest in sports, so reinforcing that only makes a woman wonder if she would end up a sports widow … again. For women, phrases like “hanging out with my peeps” just has a guy wondering if you’d dish about the whole date with a bunch of people he doesn’t know. You will of course, but do you really want him to know that?

That should cover the basics, to keep you from bombing out before you start out, but if I missed something, share it with us. What turns you off in online dating profiles?

 

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In the Dark Ages, before the Internet, it used to be that if you wanted to meet people to date, you would try the local bar or club. If that didn’t appeal to you, you could try a personals ad in a newspaper. Finding potential mates in a drinking establishment speaks for itself, and may […]

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In the Dark Ages, before the Internet, it used to be that if you wanted to meet people to date, you would try the local bar or club. If that didn’t appeal to you, you could try a personals ad in a newspaper. Finding potential mates in a drinking establishment speaks for itself, and may partly account for the increasing divorce rate in the last part of the last century. A personals ad was a different kind of animal. It was a costly proposition, since newspapers liked to charge per letter, and sometimes these ads were tied to a service that had you pay per minute to pick up voicemails. It was the genesis of abbreviations such as “SDF looking for LTR.” Yes, it was that primitive. The cost alone made you sharpen that pencil to turn out an ad that not only reflected the true you in the fewest words possible, but also filter out those you really didn’t want to meet.

We have a proliferation of online dating sites, all with profile pages. Some people think they can be casual with regards to what they put in their dating profiles. Wrong. If you are serious about attracting a mate – or just a date – you should craft these things as carefully as you would a resume for a potential employer. Let’s take a look at some common pitfalls and what you can do to avoid them.

Screen names

Some sites have you set up a screen name. Unlike chat rooms, where you are anonymous for as long as you like, your screen name is associated with your picture. Choosing the wrong name can have unfortunate consequences. Try for neutral rather than clever, since you might not be as clever as you think. Names like HarveyWallBanger, Magic Hands and The Tongue not only fail to impress but also set up the impression that you are looking for just one thing. Maybe you are, but do you want to be that obvious?

Pictures

Again, the theme is to set up the best impression you can. Pictures of you shirtless, in your bathing suit – or worse yet, nearly naked – may not impress people as much as you think. Keep your toys out of the pic as well. Pictures of you next to your car, on your motorcycle or in your boat give the impression that your toy is the most important thing in your life. This is hardly the message you want to send out, is it? Likewise for pics that include other people in your life. Keep your best buddy, your child, your coworkers or someone of the opposite sex out of the picture unless you want to send the message that your potential date is going to be playing second fiddle to other people in your life. And don’t use a picture that obviously clips out a person that shared a picture frame with you. It just makes people wonder if they will receive the same treatment from you. Use something current, not your prom picture from ten years ago. People want to see what you look like now. Last but not least, don’t even think of not putting up a picture. It just makes people wonder what you are trying to hide.

Text

Some sites ask you questions, others leave it up to you. Some are a combination of both. Unless you are clever at turning a phrase, just keep it simple. To avoid are things typical of your gender. Most men have an interest in sports, so reinforcing that only makes a woman wonder if she would end up a sports widow … again. For women, phrases like “hanging out with my peeps” just has a guy wondering if you’d dish about the whole date with a bunch of people he doesn’t know. You will of course, but do you really want him to know that?

That should cover the basics, to keep you from bombing out before you start out, but if I missed something, share it with us. What turns you off in online dating profiles?

 

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My best friend, Kathleen, works in human resources at a local big-box store. She loves her job, but she calls me almost weekly to vent about the store’s employees and their latest relationship escapades. Kathleen’s grievances got me thinking. Dating a coworker may initially seem like a great idea. You two already have a great […]

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My best friend, Kathleen, works in human resources at a local big-box store. She loves her job, but she calls me almost weekly to vent about the store’s employees and their latest relationship escapades. Kathleen’s grievances got me thinking.

Dating a coworker may initially seem like a great idea. You two already have a great connection and lots in common, you get to spend almost all day with that person, and best of all, you get to go home with them at the end of the workday. But, Kathleen warns, when you spend your home life and your work life with that person, there’s a pretty good chance that disaster awaits if you can’t draw the line between the two.

So, while starting something up with that sexy attorney or checkout cutie may be tempting, think long and hard about what could happen if you were to cross the line:

1. Your relationship will be awkward for your coworkers.

Even though you might be trying to keep things on the DL, your relationship will be obvious to everyone around you. People are much more aware than you realize, and who doesn’t love a little office gossip? Word will spread like wildfire (and your reputation could get torched). Not to mention the face that lovers’ quarrels and any form of  PDA (Public Displays of Affection) have no place in a work environment. Plus, you could become so wrapped up in your office romance that you alienate yourself from your peers.

Mary Kate, a marketing director at a dot-com educational company in Silicon Valley, has watched two of her coworkers’ office romances go up in flames, searing reputations in the process. “The amount of gossip flying around was astounding,” she says. “One of the women was way too open about her relationship with the sales guy. She fell really hard for him, and whenever he acted ‘suspiciously’ — which, at least in her mind, began to happen more and more often — she went from desk to desk, asking everyone she knew for advice. It ended up that the guy was hooking up with the PR assistant, too … who eventually got pregnant. The whole thing blew up in their faces. The assistant quit soon afterward, the sales guy ended up marrying her, and the drama queen is still harping to everyone about what a jerk he was. This is a workplace, not a soap opera set. I just don’t want to know this kind of stuff about my coworkers.”

2. Playing favorites will become an issue.

If you’re dating your supervisor — and we could write an article on the many, many reasons you should never date your boss — it will be glaringly obvious to everyone that he or she is paying special attention to you … and maybe even giving you preferential treatment. In the best-case scenario, your coworkers will notice, grow resentful of the special favors being bestowed upon you, and rumors will fly. Sure, that’s only talk, but words can be damaging in more ways than one. Worst-case scenario: lawsuit. You don’t want to go there. Imagine if sales guy in the anecdote above had been a supervisor of the two women — or if either woman had been the supervisor of either or both of the other two, er, players. There’s no limit as to how bad it could get.

3. It could hinder your work performance.

When you first start dating someone, you want to spend every second together. That may make working side by side feel like a dream come true, but the downside is that your focus will be off your work and on your beloved. Even goofing off with your girlfriend or boyfriend while on the clock can keep you from doing your best work. Chances are you’ll be so wrapped up in your infatuation that you’ll be a bad influence on each other. And just imagine what would happen if you had a fight. Do you really want your coworkers to be involved, even silently? We didn’t think so.

Says Mary Kate about the fallout from the doomed relationship in her office, “It’s been going on for two years now, and it’s still causing a distraction. If someone were to translate the loss of productivity into a dollar amount, we’d all be sacked.” There’s no need to give the powers-that-be a reason to let you go, and that’s especially true in this economy.

4. Breaking up will lead to workplace disaster.

When breakups occur (and unless you’re Jim and Pam, they inevitably do) things can really start to get ugly. Fighting with each other in the break room or not speaking to each other at all can make your work environment tense and uncomfortable for everyone. Worst of all, seeing that person every day, and eventually seeing them move on to someone new, can make it impossible for you to get over it. Especially if one party starts a fling with another coworker.

5. You could be setting yourself up for career catastrophe.

Hooking up with the boss, or even a peer, can throw your career off track. When the big bosses at your company find out what you’ve been up to, there’s zero chance that you’ll come out looking good. It’s likely that they’ll skip you over for that next promotion or raise. And remember that it’s a small world and word gets around. Your reputation could be tarnished for years to come. Do you really want to take that chance?

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My best friend, Kathleen, works in human resources at a local big-box store. She loves her job, but she calls me almost weekly to vent about the store’s employees and their latest relationship escapades. Kathleen’s grievances got me thinking. Dating a coworker may initially seem like a great idea. You two already have a great […]

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My best friend, Kathleen, works in human resources at a local big-box store. She loves her job, but she calls me almost weekly to vent about the store’s employees and their latest relationship escapades. Kathleen’s grievances got me thinking.

Dating a coworker may initially seem like a great idea. You two already have a great connection and lots in common, you get to spend almost all day with that person, and best of all, you get to go home with them at the end of the workday. But, Kathleen warns, when you spend your home life and your work life with that person, there’s a pretty good chance that disaster awaits if you can’t draw the line between the two.

So, while starting something up with that sexy attorney or checkout cutie may be tempting, think long and hard about what could happen if you were to cross the line:

1. Your relationship will be awkward for your coworkers.

Even though you might be trying to keep things on the DL, your relationship will be obvious to everyone around you. People are much more aware than you realize, and who doesn’t love a little office gossip? Word will spread like wildfire (and your reputation could get torched). Not to mention the face that lovers’ quarrels and any form of  PDA (Public Displays of Affection) have no place in a work environment. Plus, you could become so wrapped up in your office romance that you alienate yourself from your peers.

Mary Kate, a marketing director at a dot-com educational company in Silicon Valley, has watched two of her coworkers’ office romances go up in flames, searing reputations in the process. “The amount of gossip flying around was astounding,” she says. “One of the women was way too open about her relationship with the sales guy. She fell really hard for him, and whenever he acted ‘suspiciously’ — which, at least in her mind, began to happen more and more often — she went from desk to desk, asking everyone she knew for advice. It ended up that the guy was hooking up with the PR assistant, too … who eventually got pregnant. The whole thing blew up in their faces. The assistant quit soon afterward, the sales guy ended up marrying her, and the drama queen is still harping to everyone about what a jerk he was. This is a workplace, not a soap opera set. I just don’t want to know this kind of stuff about my coworkers.”

2. Playing favorites will become an issue.

If you’re dating your supervisor — and we could write an article on the many, many reasons you should never date your boss — it will be glaringly obvious to everyone that he or she is paying special attention to you … and maybe even giving you preferential treatment. In the best-case scenario, your coworkers will notice, grow resentful of the special favors being bestowed upon you, and rumors will fly. Sure, that’s only talk, but words can be damaging in more ways than one. Worst-case scenario: lawsuit. You don’t want to go there. Imagine if sales guy in the anecdote above had been a supervisor of the two women — or if either woman had been the supervisor of either or both of the other two, er, players. There’s no limit as to how bad it could get.

3. It could hinder your work performance.

When you first start dating someone, you want to spend every second together. That may make working side by side feel like a dream come true, but the downside is that your focus will be off your work and on your beloved. Even goofing off with your girlfriend or boyfriend while on the clock can keep you from doing your best work. Chances are you’ll be so wrapped up in your infatuation that you’ll be a bad influence on each other. And just imagine what would happen if you had a fight. Do you really want your coworkers to be involved, even silently? We didn’t think so.

Says Mary Kate about the fallout from the doomed relationship in her office, “It’s been going on for two years now, and it’s still causing a distraction. If someone were to translate the loss of productivity into a dollar amount, we’d all be sacked.” There’s no need to give the powers-that-be a reason to let you go, and that’s especially true in this economy.

4. Breaking up will lead to workplace disaster.

When breakups occur (and unless you’re Jim and Pam, they inevitably do) things can really start to get ugly. Fighting with each other in the break room or not speaking to each other at all can make your work environment tense and uncomfortable for everyone. Worst of all, seeing that person every day, and eventually seeing them move on to someone new, can make it impossible for you to get over it. Especially if one party starts a fling with another coworker.

5. You could be setting yourself up for career catastrophe.

Hooking up with the boss, or even a peer, can throw your career off track. When the big bosses at your company find out what you’ve been up to, there’s zero chance that you’ll come out looking good. It’s likely that they’ll skip you over for that next promotion or raise. And remember that it’s a small world and word gets around. Your reputation could be tarnished for years to come. Do you really want to take that chance?

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